Relating with humans is a school on it's own that one would not graduate from as long as one lives because every stage in life requires human connection except the few one could avoid. We do know that it's almost impossible to live without another (whether close relationship or strangers).
One of the things that's inevitable in our relationship with humans is helping or being kind to one another but sadly, some humans don't value this gesture while of course, others does.
I don't know about others but being kind to people isn't something anyone should grumble over or feel regret doing, it is supposed to be simple, easy and unconditional as much as we possibly can make it seem.
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But there are those times one's kindness is taken for granted and one tend to feel less need to help others. Regardless of what happens with one person, we just need to try to not make it affect another person. Being Kind to one person might not turn out well but the next person's own might be an amazing experience so I do have that in mind and try to move on even with bad experiences I've had with people who I once helped.
I once lived close to a neighbor who begs for literally everything in our house. It even got to the point where she would want to ask for my wears like slippers, caps and stuffs like that. I tried to give her everything she asked for but kept refusing to give her my wears as I felt they were too personal to share, at least for health sake.
Her asking habit kept growing but I felt it was because she don't have, her family seem to be struggling with everything and my family had enough to share so I never let it bother me too much. But let's be honest, giving too much to one person can get tiring but somehow you just can't seem to say No when you know you have what they are asking for.
This act continued until one day when she asked for something she usually would get from me (some cash) and I told her I didn't have any on me. I still don't know how she would believe that I must have had money on me but decided not to give her, the money wasn't even much but that day, I ran out of cash and I couldn't think of going to make withdrawals at that time (Pos services wasn't out then).
She left my place and went away without saying anything after I said I didn't have the money on me. A few days later, I got back from where I went out to and somehow I met her gossiping me to another neighbour that I don't give her anytime she asks something from me. That the few times I do, I grumble in her ears about it.
I couldn't believe my ears, I made some noise so she would know I heard her and the other neighbor was like "But I do see that family give some things when you ask", she couldn't say anything but just kept staring at me as I tried to go inside our house.
I made sure not to say anything about that day but since then, she never talked to me again or come asking for anything. Even when I greet her a simple "Good morning", she would sing or try to talk to someone else and walk away. We became strangers obviously.
I knew I should be happy that I was free from helping her in almost everything but it bothered me a lot, so much that I began think I did bad not going out to make withdrawals that day so I could help her. We moved out of the place so I don't see her anymore, don't talk to her too.
It was an experience that taught me to give even more at every chance I get but I also learn not to let people's ungratefulness get to me.
