As friends, we take many things for granted, and we did not take it seriously. Looking at the way most of us do call each other some words that are a curse but we take them as jokes shows how we don't take the words seriously. A critical example of these words is fool, which is ode in Yoruba. When chatting or talking with a friend and it gets interesting or fun, you will likely call them those names.
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On a normal level, a random person can't call us that because it's an insult and we will take it seriously, but if a close friend of ours did, we wouldn't take it seriously and would rather take it as a joke. When doing that or calling your friends fools, it must come with a laughing emoji when chatting, and it must be a funny situation when you do it in a person-to-person conversation so that they will know you are joking.
It's not every time we make jokes with our friends that they will accept them because there are times they won't be in a good mood or maybe we went too far with the joke and it hurt the person.
There are a lot of times people have made a hurtful joke with me during a conversation with them. To them, they think they are just having fun or speaking their minds, but they don't know their jokes are expensive and they hurt. I don't have to fight with them, so I will let them know what they say is not good or let it go by not saying anything.
Yes, a lot of offensive jokes can be accepted from a person most of the time because of the friendship or relationship that we have with them. But we can't take all jokes every time because some of them are just out of line, and we can't do anything other than get angry or resent the person who makes that kind of joke.
There was a time someone made a joke of my body. She was like, "Mercy, you are not supposed to be wearing all these tiny or slim trousers because your buttocks are just flat in them and they don't suit you."
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She went further to say that it's people like her that slim trousers are meant for. I was mad and was like, "What kind of stupid words did she say out?" I have my body, and I can decide to wear anything that I want. If I want to wear baggy trousers or slim trousers, that's my choice to make.
I just hate it when people tell me the best clothes to wear because I am slim, and they went further to say there are clothes for slim people. Where in the world did they make that law? I know she said it as a joke, but to me it wasn't, and it was offensive to me. The next thing I tell her is that she should never tell me not to wear a particular cloth because I am slim.
Some people just don't know that words are powerful and can break people's hearts, and that's why we all have to be mindful of what we say and how we say it to people.
Thank you for reading.
