Ser padres como dicen por allì es un aprendizaje continuo, manual acerca de esto es inexistente, por observaciòn o experiencia propia con nuestros padres y como actuaban ellos con nosotros consideramos que esa es la forma, algo que vamos descubriendo con el paso de los años, nos damos cuenta que cuando fuimos niños era otra època, nosotros èramos los hijos y asì asumimos lo que nuestros padres decìan, como nos trataban etc, era su forma porque quizàs ellos tambièn lo hacìan por lo mismo, su manual vino a ser ese de còmo fueron ellos educados.

Visto asì, en mi momento de orientar a los mìos evitaba hacer cosas o tener acciones que tenìan los mios para conmigo; o por lecturas realizadas siguiendo teorìas de investigadores tomaba en cuenta estas recomendaciones. Cosa que no era tan sencillo, somos seres humanos, como ya se ha dicho y està comprobado somos ùnicos y esa forma de ser de cada quien asì seamos de los mismos padres difiere de los otros.

Unos màs callados , otros màs explosivos, otros màs independientes. En esos casos tambièn era determinante el nùmero de hijos para atender y orientar. Son elementos que a veces ser reflexivos se consideraba una utopìa...màs bien eran impulsivos, que sòlo con decir el nombre completo estàbamos derechitos. En esos momentos escuchàbamos.

Generaciones nuevas, o estamos màs atentos a como actuamos para buscar el equilibrio en la convivencia, parece que somos demasiados reflexivos en algunos casos y lo impulsivo queda a un lado en algunas ocasiones.

En este momento no tengo niños, hombre y mujer si, no sè como me comportarìa con niños menores de 10 años si serìa impulsiva o reflexiva, pasè un poco de las dos con los mìos en esas èpocas de niños y adolescentes para no caer en situaciones conflictivas, a veces la ocasiòn me llevaba a ello.

Primero suave con la conversaciòn, al no ver resultado el impulso iba en aumento y parece que llegaba un momento que zas se subìan los colores al no sentir la respuesta esperada.

Considero que en el proceso de crecimiento de nuestros hijos son varias las condiciones y elementos que se unen, a veces las actividades laborales, la atenciòn a ellos nos causaba cierto estrès que nos llevaba a ser impulsivo cuando no veìa la respuesta esperada o deseada cuando como padres sentìamos que lo estàbamos haciendo de la mejor manera. Ellos como niños quizàs no lo entendìan y actuaban como si en el hogar no se les exigìa normas, disciplina, reponsabilidad.

Alzar la voz parece que los hacìa reaccionar. Evitaba ser asì. Quise ser siempre reflexiva. Quizàs lo fuì cuando ya iban creciendo, dàndose cuenta ellos de la importancia de lo que es la educaciòn de hogar. Esa forma de observar sin actuar hacia los hijos y despuès ven acà vamos a conversar se diò cuando ya la edad era màs.

Los consejos pueden ser muchos, aunque se pueden dar los dos procesos por el momento en que sucedan las cosas. Como padres a veces estamos tan cargados de tantas cosas y ese mundo està tan congestionado que el impulso es el que resalta.

Se logra si, sin que las personas que te rodean te juzguen y te digan actùa asì o no. Los que nos rodean deben limitarse solo a observar sin juzgar porque cada padre tiene sus maneras.

Lo ideal es ser reflexivos ante tantas situaciones diarias que se viven.

Being parents as they say over there is a continuous learning, manual about this is inexistent, by observation or own experience with our parents and how they acted with us we consider that this is the way, something that we are discovering with the passing of the years, we realise that when we were children it was a different time, we were the children and so we assumed what our parents said, how they treated us etc, it was their way because maybe they did it too, their manual came to be that of how they were educated.

Seen in this way, in my moment of orienting mine I avoided doing things or having actions that mine had towards me; or by readings done following theories of researchers I took into account these recommendations. Something that was not so simple, we are human beings, as it has already been said and it has been proved, we are unique and the way of being of each one of us, even if we are from the same parents, differs from the others.

Some are quieter, others more explosive, others more independent. In these cases, the number of children to look after and guide was also a determining factor. Sometimes it was considered utopian to be reflective...they were rather impulsive, and just by saying the full name we were right on the spot. In those moments we listened.

New generations, or we are more attentive to how we act to seek balance in coexistence, it seems that we are too reflexive in some cases and the impulsive is sometimes left aside.

At the moment I don't have children, I don't know how I would behave with children under 10 if I would be impulsive or reflexive, I went a bit of both with mine in those times of children and adolescents so as not to fall into conflict situations, sometimes the occasion led me to it.

At first I was gentle with the conversation, but when I didn't see the result, the impulse increased and it seems that there came a moment when, wham, the colours went up because I didn't feel the expected response.

I think that in the process of our children's growth there are several conditions and elements that come together, sometimes the work activities, the attention to them caused us some stress that led us to be impulsive when we did not see the expected or desired response when as parents we felt that we were doing it the best way. They as children may not have understood this and acted as if they were not held to standards, discipline, accountability at home.

Raising my voice seemed to make them react. I avoided being like that. I always wanted to be thoughtful. Maybe I was when they were growing up, realising the importance of home education. That way of observing the children without acting and then come here, let's have a chat happened when they were older.

The advice can be many, although both processes can be given by the time things happen. As parents sometimes we are so loaded with so many things and that world is so congested that the impulse is the one that stands out.

It is achieved if, without the people around you judging you and telling you to act like this or not. Those around us should just observe without judging, because every parent has his or her own way.

The ideal is to be reflective in the face of so many daily situations.