Loving someone has nothing to do with exciting them to adopt your values or nudging them on your part and everything to do with empowering them with the knowledge and the freedom to make their own choices.
That is why so many people who are successful in their career where they are meticulously in control of everything are struggling so much with their relationship
where they are actually supposed to let go and be yourself nothing goes from nothing that is life.
You need to change your trajectory, your life, the way you value things, the way your life will turn out and everything it entails. Don't be angry, don't be sad about how things begin to turn up and start focusing on your life and becoming the best at what you do.