A lot of people today are looking for ways to get out of the marriages they entered into few years after. This is because they married by reason of desperation.
You know that:
"I must marry before 30 phrase?"
"my mates are all married."
"I think he/she is established already."
"I can't afford to lose him/her."
"She is homely."
"My parents love him/her."
"We have been family friends."
"I'm pregnant for you and I can't abort it."
"Just get pregnant for me and I'll marry you."
"He/she has a nice job."
"I want to have kids early."
"My church does not permit this or that."
"I need someone who can also take care of some family bills."
"If I don't marry him/her, what would the people say?"
"He/she is God-fearing."
"I've invested so much to back out now."
All these, sooner or later must reveal to you truly, that that was not the marriage you bargained for.
Take your time to pray. Take your time to also fall in love and be convinced to build the love, watch the love grow, correct the necessary mistakes that need to be corrected while the sun is still shinning and be happy doing that. Avoid marriages that come through connections, or through referrals by some friends or family members. It is your marriage and not theirs. These people only play a part on your wedding day, but not on your matrimonial home. They leave you to face reality immediately the closing prayers have been rendered. Agitate for the best marriage over a flamboyant wedding ceremony. Marriage was meant to be enjoyed, not to be endured. You are too important to remain unhappy forever.
