Forgiveness is the act of letting go of the past. Somebody might have called you sometime, do something you don't like, remind me upset over a particular circumstance or issue, but your ability to let those problems go is what makes you unique and exception. Forgiveness is of the heart it is not just something you open up your mouth to say. Many persons just Rush to say I have forgiven you when they have not really forgiven them. So it is very important we pay attention to forgiveness then we can move over to forget him the incident that will forgive.
Yes it is one thing to forgive and another thing to forget. Sometimes we find it difficult to even do any of these talk more of finishing it up. When people hurt you, do something that you're not okay with, and you hold this sense of bitterness over them. It always stay there unless you are moved by the spirit to just let it go by forgiving yourself for hating the person. Ideally when someone offend you they are expected to ask for forgiveness before you can give this forgiveness out. Which is the process of you forgiving them.
I was told that forgiveness is given to those whom asks for it, and deserve it. It was difficult to accept this phrase, because I can just forgive somebody without a person knowing, same as, I can forget something as well. But a true forgiveness should come from oneself, where you forgive yourself first, then forgive the person in the picture. Forgiveness is mostly authentic when the person that offended you or cause this hatred asks for forgiveness by themselves and you understanding that they were wrong and giving them the chance to do better, by so doing this you forgive them.
Can forgiveness actually happen without you forget me? There are things that you might forgive but not necessary demand that you have to forget them. We are talking about emotions, memories and you don't expect this memories and emotions to just go away overnight, com'on, it will be difficult to just happen. However, I will say that you can forgive someone without actually forgetting wall really happen, but a real forgiveness birth forgetting.
When you truly forgive somebody and the person change from that behavior that calls that hatred or the issues in quote, gradually you will see that it will be even difficult to reflect on that which happened earlier and with subsequent time whenever you reflect to that you just smile and won't think about it. For me I don't know if someone can actually forget everything that happened.
It is very easy for me to forgive but psychologically it is not easy to forget unless there is a memory loss or memory reset. Many of us can vividly remember everything that happened even at our 10 -15 years of age, then, how about now that you are grown enough to remember what happened, differentiate your feelings and emotions. Therefore I believe one can truly forgive someone without forgetting, but when you truly say someone forgets about something, is when they do not refer to that incident, they do not think about it or act out of it, then you can say the truly forgave and forgot.
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