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On this faithful day, my world came crumbling right before my eyes, yet I had nothing to do.
Tunji was the love of my life, he'll do anything and everything for me, he made trusting someone so easy. He took care of me and my needs so easily, sometimes I ask myself how easy it is for him to be so flawless.
It wasn't a lie, he's love was so real, unconditional, unapologetic, intense, truthful.
He was loyal to the core, he was just the perfect man for me.
Reality sets in at some point, and all the goodies became sadness, he his a Muslim, my parent won't let me marry him, but i love him so much i am willing to take that risk with the hope that he would be converted some day since he loves me so much and will do anything for me.
Little did i know there is something he wouldn't do for me, I was so worried because I was head over heels for him but I feared having a failed marriage because of our religious differences.
On this faithful day I popped the question Tunji would you be converted to a Christian for me, I love you so much but I can't marry a Muslim, I know you're not so much of a religious person, you should be able to do this for us right?
Tunji went blank for a moment, clears his throat and said Lolade, I wish I could but the bitter truth is that I can't, I can't disappoint my father, I'll love for my children to be Muslims, you can remain a Christian if you want, I won't disturb you, I respect your religion. He pat me in the back and said there is nothing to worry about, we love eachother and that's more than enough.
Little did he know, those words broke my heart, reality came knocking, I cried none stop in my hideout, I was sad for days, my love life is about to face it's death, my heart says Lolade, let love lead but my brain says otherwise, Lolade you will suffer.
I had to choose what kinda life I wanted to live as a married woman, be a happy wife or a sad wife? Can I really handle the religious barrier we have forever or not? Can I raise kids that won't serve my God?
My answer was 'NO' I can't go through managing life irrespective of the love I am getting from Tunji, then I remembered the common saying 'a broken relationship is better than a broken home'
I took the hardest decision of my life then and there, I called Tunji and told him it was over, this can't work because of our religious differences, he tried to persuade me, babe we can make things work, I promise you, we won't have issues, and I will never disturb you for being a Christian.
I became even more scared, Tunji did not change his decision, he won't change his religion for me regardless, I was expecting him to say babe, give me time or something, I'll be converted, he never said so, he his a Muslim and nothing can change that, not even our love.
My heart is broken, I lost the love of my life, I can't love again, it hurt to fall in love, here I am secretly waiting for Tunji to change his mind but he never did, it's been 3 years, I find it so hard to move on. I love Tunji so much, what do I do?
A true life story....Lolade is still battling with falling in love again.
