This is a publication based on the suggested topic proposed in the Hive Learners community through their discord, which on this occasion is "Even When Toxic".
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Hello dear readers of my blog, welcome to another episode of the topic of the week, which this time is about toxicity.
We have all had the opportunity at some point in our lives to see or be part of toxic people.
Those people who always have a negative comment, who create a toxic and difficult environment for others. Personally, I have witnessed and unfortunately participated in toxic relationships.
Those relationships where one maintains the illusion and faith that the person you are with will change and says, "Oh, but she is a good woman and she does that because she needs a lot of love," and one always, well in my case, because I was in love, only saw the kind parts and the good side of the person who was accompanying me and was not aware of all the harm they were doing to me.
In reality, I romanticized all the harm that this person was doing to me, that it was not convenient for me to be there.
This happened to me both in personal relationships and in work relationships where I stayed in that type of job because I really needed the income.
So I had colleagues around me who were very toxic and bosses who were very toxic, who really did not motivate me to work, but rather wanted or made comments that forced me to stay working extra hours for a ridiculously unfair salary.
So I ended up sometimes working at a place from Monday to Sunday up to 13 hours a day, 14 hours a day.
I had no life, no space to have a social life, to entertain myself, and my life was solely focused on that job.
This happened to me about 30 years ago when I was working in publishing with the boss I have mentioned to you, who was a colonel in World War II and was used to oppressing, to being a very toxic person.
I learned that having less time to do my own things and romanticizing and idealizing this type of toxic relationships was not good at all and I learned it the hard way.
I learned it by having panic attacks and anxiety and suffering from chronic depression for allowing this, for allowing this type of abuse.
I believe that what can be done to reduce this type of acts or that these things happen to other people is to create awareness, is to make a big call to attention to all people to let them know that they should not allow this type of toxic behavior.
I think this goes hand in hand with education, that people need to be taught and shown that there are other ways to maintain healthy relationships and get out of all this toxicity that being subjected to a relationship implies.
Often we see this from women who are oppressed by men, who beat them and want to have them as servants in their homes, oppressed to wash their clothes, cook for them, or be like an accessory.
Because there are men who like to do that, to show women as accessories or as ornaments or as trophies or medals that they display on the street as if that would make their masculinity stand out or the fact that they are more alpha males and more men because they are the ones who have control or dominance.
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