You must first love yourself before you can love another.
A very popular quote and a very true one!
If you go through life always trying to find someone to love, but neglect to give love to yourself, you'll always be trying to make two halves a whole.
Being whole and complete in your own skin before you find a partner to love, will attract someone to you who is also whole and complete (or at least working on it like you are ;) )
This myth that we are incomplete and need a partner to be whole is a crippling one.
Work towards becoming whole in yourself before you share yourself with another.
Here are some tips on how to show yourself the love you deserve.
And I mean just with yourself. Turn off the TV and get off the internet. Ask yourself how you're feeling today.
Think about your personality traits; which ones are empowering and which ones hold you back? If you have traits that are holding you back from succeeding in life, what can you do to change them?
Giving yourself the time for self analysis will help you get a clearer picture on what you like about yourself and what you would like to improve.
The eyes are the windows to your soul. If you're unsure about how you feel about a situation, your eyes will let you know!
Look deep into your eye and tell yourself, "I Love You."
This is such a powerful and beautiful thing to do!
While you're gazing into your own eyes, now is a good time to tell yourself all of the things you love about yourself.
"You look beautiful today!"
"I'm so proud of what you've achieved in life"
"You got this!"
These are some great examples, but of course personalise it to your own life experience.
Really feel the words you're giving yourself, we are emotional beings and there is a lot of power in working with emotions.
If you ever notice yourself speaking cruel words to yourself and putting yourself down, stop! Bring your attention to what is going good in your life. What are you grateful for today?
Practicing gratitude is a great way to switch a negative mindset into a positive one!
Nothing says 'I love you' more than taking a long bath!
Take the time to yourself to really deep cleanse. Set out some candles, turn off the artificial light and the extractor fan noise. This is your time to relax!
I personally don't like to wash with chemical soaps and so one of my favourite bath blends is:
Sea Salt
Bicarbonate
Lavender Essential Oil
Oats are also great to soak in, although I wouldn't do this too often just incase it blocked the drain :P
5)Foot Massage
After your long relaxing bath get out the coconut oil, (you can find a link here as to why coconut oil is so amazing!) moisturise your skin and give your feet a massage.
Our feet carry us everywhere we go in our bodies, give them some appreciation! The feet are part of the body that is really easy to self massage.
Also, our hands and feet are energy transmitters and receivers and connecting the two feels so healing!
When we eat a healthy balanced diet our body thanks us for it! The cells in our bodies are constantly regenerating. You're never too old or too far down the unhealthy track to change your eating habits for the better!
One of my favourite resources for nutritional information is draxe.com So many amazing recipes as well as articles relating to almost all areas of health.
Giving our bodies the fuel it needs is a wonderful act of self love!
Having goals set and ticking them off gives yourself such a sense of achievement it keeps a smile on your face for the rest of the day! (That's how I feel when I get a blog post up!) We can get lost and feel down if we have no sense of direction. Set yourself a big '3 years from now' goal and take little steps each day towards it.
I hope you've enjoyed reading my self love tips and start to incorporate them into your life.
Here's to a happier, healthier you!
Much Love & Light,
Lila-May
