Trust is one thing I don't play with in any kind of relationship, but most especially in friendship. I don't think there's really any point, if trust is not there. Because everything else starts to seem fake, without trust. I should be able to speak with you freely, if we are going to call ourselves friends. And that too without feeling that what I say in private will turn into a humorous situation or exchanged for gossip.
My cousin and I was in the same class together during my secondary school days. We were not really close, and just few people knew we were related. She was the president of the student union and the assistant was also her best friend. These two were inseparable. One was almost never without the other. There were that close that if one wasn't at school, then the other won't be either.
So, they had a serious argument one day in class. Before anyone even understood what was going on, they both have climbed on top of the desks, shouting at each other. They began exposing each others secrets - things they once told each in private as best friends. It was wild. They said so many things that made some people in the class shocked, and some were laughing. I just sat there watching them. I was unable to believe that these two people who once trusted each other so deeply could suddenly turn their secrets into weapons.
After some days of keeping malice with each other, they met in class crying and apologising to each other. I don't really know if they completely made up. How could they even be able to return to being the same, after what occurred? Sharing things again with someone that I know would possibly use it against you later on? I do not think I can.
I gained from what happened between them that day. It made me more cautions regarding the people I choose to call my friends. If I were to find out or even notice that someone I thought I could trust has said something behind my back or has revealed something personal that I told them, then I start to pay attention and filter what I say to that person. I don't cut them off completely.
Usually, it is hard for me to be open again or share things with someone like that again.
Any relationship - family, friends or romantic - already stands on a shaky ground if trust is absent. They can laugh together, go out together, take pictures together and be affectionate, but if there's no trust, it isn't much worth. Trust is everything, in my opinion, that is what gives each relationship any meaning.
Trust is that sense of knowing that your person isn't going to betray you, even when you're not around. It is much harder once trust is broken to get back to how it was. I have come to appreciate the people around me who has shown and proved to be trustworthy. Because those kind of people are rare.
With all said, trust is not something that can just be demanded. It is earned and needs to be taken care of.
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