Gentlemen, I want you to understand that whatever first impression you leave, will immediately be registered on the female you acted out in front of. First impressions go a long way and will take a lot of effort to be wiped out from HER memory so I advise you be very careful.
I decided to write this topic down today because days ago I was approached by a man who I felt had good intent, but at the same time made me feel bad for being a female. He thought he was using his charm, but hell no; he was irritating me the more. I’ve been approached by guys who have been too shy to construct even a single correct sentence. It was bad because I knew that he was a smart guy and even cute. But the impression he left me with was; he can’t be very confident with me or around me and maybe he’d never even stand up for me in public seeing that he was very shy and not very confident.
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PART ONE.
The female mind sometimes can’t be understood by her. I’m telling you today that even we cannot understand ourselves sometimes, and we sometimes rely on our partners to read us, or help us out of that complex stage.my circle and I, cannot date a guy who cannot help us make tough decisions. What are you there for? Relationships shouldn’t be about sex a lot. In fact, sex is just an added advantage. What can you give her or give him, without sex? Think about mental support, happiness, protection. So if you’re trying to MAN us, you have to think (because we are very complex people) complex, think different and woo us.
A lady you are approaching will notice the most ABSURD; I mean the most ABSURD things about you. There was this guy I had a crush on and I’m not the type to approach the guy. He finally approached me and my eyes couldn’t go off his nose hairs, that seemed to come out of his nostril. He automatically looked like a dirty guy and the feeling died there and then. He used nice language, he had a cute smile, he smelt nice and yet, seeing the nose hairs just destroyed his game. I don’t have to tell any guy anymore to check out his appearance first. It is possible to blubber in front of her, but because you smell amazingly good, you’d win her. Girls are just really complex and even weird creatures.
There was this guy I met online and asked for a date at Ikeja City Mall in lagos and I was like, fine. He called frequently, he had a hot voice and I felt flattered he asked me out. Arriving there, I called him and he said he was around the corner and I my searching skills came on. My eyes began to scan like a scanning machine, codedly. He called again and I saw a similar guy not too far away pronouncing the same words I heard over the phone and I had the urge to run. He wore striped multi-colour shirt with plaid shorts and light green air max that looked too big for his leg. Added to the fact that he looked shorter than me. It immediately registered in my mind that if I tell this guy yes, my reputation would fall, I mean, looking at him?! Just wanted to make me laugh. I eventually stayed and had lunch with him. The nose of a woman cannot be underestimated. I immediately accessed his perfume and it was this concentrated Hausa perfume that choked me countless times; I tried hard not to cry because I could taste it in my food. Then I noticed his nails. Short, bitten to the state of ugliness and dirty. What pushed me to agree to the date? He still sounded hot and he spoke good English but man, I couldn’t take the risk of saying yes.
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If it were a girl on her period that he went out with, the date would have ended bad because her sense of smell and taste heightens and thus, he would have irritated her the more. The worst thing that can ever happen is irritating a girl on her period with either mouth odour or body odour or too much perfume, or too much talking. She’d be very blunt with you and could even walk out on you. She will definitely not hide her discomfort and you’d not like it.
I am pointing it out to you;
The girl you’re approaching will notice definitely notice 5 of these things, if not all self because some girls will look you head to toe, maybe to intimidate you. From the colour of your eyes, to the colour of your stockings and even your boxer if you sag and all the while, she might have just been looking at your face, but she has screened you without looking down. Mouth and body odour are the two worst things that will kill your game. So please be careful to use mints if you have breath issues and use nice colognes. Even if it’s cheap, let it make you smell good. If you manage to pass her exam, good for you. In fact, if her friends see you once or twice and see that you look responsible and clean, they would advertise your market to your soon-to-be-babe.
PART TWO.
If the lady over looks your flaws in part one, definitely not part two; your manner of approach. How you use your words and compliment her. A guy once told me,
“Your voice is so sweet, it sounds like a cock’s crow in the morning. You’re eyes are sexy like that of a fish. The way you look at me makes me want to give my life to Christ every day.”
SOMEBODY, anybody should please tell me, what is this? I admire the fact that he was confident and all, but all the things he said to me irritated me. I turned my back and left him blabbing. I am sure there are good pickup lines you can use. LEARN GOOD PICK UP LINES.
Don’t start with; BABY I LOVE YOU. You could start with, I like your eyes, or how you smell. Don’t drop the punch line just yet.
Secondly, we have moved past the era of lies like; your beauty can’t be compared to the sun, or you’re the cockroach in my cupboard or, you’re the sugar in my tea. You’d be wasting your time. You can try
“You seem hard to get and it makes me want you the more”
“I’d be happy to have a woman of your caliba in my life”
“You’re no ordinary lady, and I’m no ordinary man either” then give her your killer smile.
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You know, something to keep the conversation going, but DON’T TALK TOO MUCH PLEASE!
Mind how you use your eyes too, because they could send the wrong impression. Maintaining eye contact shows that you’re really interested and it’s one of the best ways of flirting and showing your real intentions. Taking your eyes to her busts and buttocks might land you a deafening SLAP. Maintaining eye contact, just so you know, is another way of hiding whatever flaws you have as you are drawing all her attention.
CONFIDENCE.
Please, do not make a mistake of approaching a lady in the mist of her friends if you lack confidence, or if you can’t speak well or if you don’t look good. You’d automatically spoil your market. Some girls are really mean and would make you wish for the ground to open up and swallow you. You don’t need a car and plenty money and a fancy watch and shoes to get her attention. You can just smell too good, or be too clean, or give her eye contact or get to her friends. Simple tricks.
If she’s not giving you attention, giving you positive signals and liking you in return, check these things listed above. If you have checked yourself properly and she’s still not giving in, maybe you should start fasting and praying. Lol.
