Good day to you all. With a good extent of regards, I intend to share with you some good and reasonable tips that shouldn't be for any reason kept aside through the process of building the best 👪 families we can ever be to ourselves.
Just about 4 days ago, Saturday 10th March precisely, sitting by around the neighborhood waiting for a friend for a little meeting, then just around the corner was this man chilling in silence. He was just sitting next to me and to me it looked like he was waiting to meet someone as well, minutes passed and it started seeming like the people we waited for were taking to long to show up. Then suddenly out of silence, he started a conversation with me.
THE MAN: Hey! brother you have the same type of my phone.
ME: oh really? How nice, where is yours?
THE MAN: it was just seized few minutes ago.
ME: what do you mean, by who? (by then actually i thought one way or the other, it was the police he referred to )
THE MAN: By my girlfriend.
This now started looking complicated, because with the ring in his hand it was very obvious he was a married man. He was actually in a bar seated watching a football league and having some drinks and before he knew what was happening his so called girlfriend badged into the bar snatched his phone, unleashing quarrels on him and even almost started a fight with him threatening to use the bottles of his drinks on his head. At that moment he had to leave the scene to avoid problems. The woman furtherly threatened head to his house. I wondered why a man could be having such embarrassments from a woman he didn't marry. He went on to tell me what really happened. He said this particular woman loved him so well and even had a son(though he didn't buy the idea but she insisted) for him but he didn't want to marry her because of her arrogant and cohersive way of life. He feared marrying this lady would put his life astake.
Ever since he got married, this woman has been extorting him through what we can call blackmail. According to him his wife knows this woman but is not aware of all this, including the son her husband has out of wedlock.
If paradventure you were in this ugly shoe what will you do? Well the best advice I could ever give to him was in the area of marital trust. I think he made a very big mistake not telling his wife about this all. It will always be better if his wife had this story from him than from another person. I persuaded him on the advantages of spelling out things cordially with his wife. Immediately he thought it wisely and headed home hoping that his so called girlfriend has not gotten there first.
I don't know how the story ended but I'm sure that deep down inside we all crave for a happy family filled with joy and laughter. Well I'm not yet a married man so I'm not writing this article from a personal experience or a professional competence, but I see this reason to be a natural prescription for a loving family.
TRUST
There are a whole lot of reasons that contribute to a happy family e.g love, money, understanding, good health ☺ but then, there's 1 which highly overall and that is trust. A lot of people will say that love comes first, though they might be right but for me Trust is the first one. What is trust? Trust is the firm belief in the relability of someone. From this definition you'll understand that if you don't trust someone it will be extremely impossible to recommend that person for a certain objective.
Now let's project this into our family and general relationships. It will be one of the greatest things to ever happen to us when our partners have a firm belief in our reliability. You have no idea the extent of bond this will establish through out the entire marital life.
If that man I came in conversation with was open to his wife. He wouldn't be scared of losing his family, he'll actually have nothing to be worried about. So yes ✌ that's how vital it is, and yes I still feel its important we all build some extent of trust within ourselves, in our daily lives, whether married or unmarried, single or searching, I'm not saying we should please people for any reason I'm only saying we should make ourselves worth dealing with. the element of trust is what defines our responsibilies so let's just go on build that trust * steemon!
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