If you've been around 'the law of assumption' practitioners you'll know that they keep harping on about how 'circumstances do not matter', and whilst it is true, and some of the circumstances are relatively easy to outright ignore, other, however, can be way more into your face and too extreme for your comfort levels. So what to do, when the situation looks way out of your hands?
The most crucial part is to calm your nervous system and ensure you don't go down the spiral of maybe the more typical responses of panic, fear, doubt and all that Debbie Downer jazz. But how, you may ask? I'll attempt to illustrate it with an example from my own experience.
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It was back in my high school days when I was THE MOST diligent about my mental diet (i.e. throwing out each thought deemed negative and replacing it with a 'more suitable' though instead). This rigorous sorting of thoughts had done wonders for me at the time, I was living the life! (comparatively to what I had known before)
Thanks to the school choir, my lifelong dream of going to London was finally coming true! (To some of you it might seem like ' It's just London, what's the big deal', but mind you, the Victorian Era, Sherlock Holmes and subsequently London as such had been a hyper-fixations of mine for a really long time, besides I literally had the belief that 'girls from post-soviet villages in the woods do not get to go to London' before that so, belief wise, that WAS a big deal for me at the time.)
Not only that, I had also just manifested a new flip phone - something that I did perceive as getting a little bit of pushback from the 3D about, as I was starting to feel like I was doing too much, starting to get self-conscious about 'being too greedy' with my manifestations.
This underlying belief that I can't have EVERYTHING did also come up and I had to 'choose' one manifestation over another, as I had also successfully written a project paper on personal development and motivation that I could have taken further and defend at a regional level, but the timing clashed with my already planned and paid for London trip, so I had to say no to my favourite teacher and try and explain why a seemingly frivulos trip to London was more important to me than the opportunity to impress people with my paper at the time.
Josie, but what does this have to do with remaining calm? You're just flexing now. .. Shh,.. I'm getting there, this was an important setup!
So there I was, a highschooler Josie, in London! My literal dream come true!
Big Ben, Tower Bridge, Tower, Piccadilly Circus, Sherlock Holmes museum, Madame Tussauds, you name it, sooo many impressions! "Mind The Gap!" Figuring out which is the correct direction to take the Tube. Staying at a hostel in a dodgy far side of London but it doesn't even matter because.. (squealing noises) .. It's LONDON! I'm actually here!
On one of the evenings, settling down in the Hostel we were staying at I was turning my purse inside out, but my new flip phone was nowhere to be found. My immediate thought was, someone on the tube must have stolen it. We were told to be careful, after all. But as I recognised that as being a 'negative thought', I dismissed it. I was more worried about my family flipping out about having lost the new phone when I get back home. It had been just so freshly purchased after all.
Then and there I also recognised that my usual pattern of freaking out and worrying would not serve me well, so I consciously decided to soothe my nervous system by choosing better thoughts. General thoughts, but better ones. There was already my trusty 'Everything's working out perfectly for the best of all concerned' in my arsenal, so I went with that on a loop, while trying to get to sleep. Mind you, more specific thoughts about my phone would not have helped me here, as I did not believe I could just get it back.. it was the freaking LONDON after all.. one does not simply find their phone in London..
Or do they?
The next day we had 'a no agenda free-roam day' in London. Conveniently so, I might add. The bunch of us from the choir that were sticking together for the day had decided to chill in a park, we met up with another bunch and were discussing getting or not getting some ice cream as suddenly my brain prompted me to mention my lost phone. For a second I was determining if it was a 'negative thought' and maybe I shouldn't be 'complaining', but after some internal deliberation, I decided on nonchalantly mentioning that I had lost my phone.. it was a matter of fact after all, and it is ok to mention facts, is it not?
Immediately one of the guys from the other 'bunch' nearly jumped with an excited "I know where it is!" and preceded to explain how at Madam Tussauds their group was asked if they know whose phone it was that was left on the floor by the elevator. As he was saying this, a memory that had not been in my brain before was downloading, of me being prompted to show the ticket by the elevator, something that I had not anticipated thus having to panicky look through my purse, to the point of having to start to take things out of it and placing on the ground to find the ticket.
It clicked and made sense then and there, a memory conveniently showing up where it had not been before, but I knew not to judge it, and off to Madam Tussauds to retrieve my phone we went, successfully so.
Now I had an adventurous story to share upon returning home, instead of being a predictable disappointment that cannot be trusted with nice new things. And it is one of my favourite stories to date as it so perfectly illustrates how remaining calm and going general with your thoughts when confronted with an uncomfortable 'reality' can make all the difference.
