Plus Ultra Thyself!
After more of my recent studying, i have found out some interesting facts around the fact that our mind is actually quite remarkable in ways that are exceeding our imagination (pun always intended).
Today though, we are going to talk about why it is important to be able to let your guard down at times, to become open or show your hurt, especially to the right person or group of people.
First of all i want to say is that this post is also meant to help you heal yourself and overcome issues that first seemed impossible, a lot of our old ways of thinking that stayed stuck and what we thought may first work for us, only seemed nothing more then a form of self illusion inflicted on ourselves.
I will go pretty deep with this post i can already say, yet the language will be made so that everyone can understand it.
Also this is my view upon the subject, i understand if you disagree and i love to know what everyone thinks as well!
The Ego
Think about the fact that we have many layers, thanks to some knowledge that i may have obtained on my route, i can give a clear explanation about this as well.
You have an outer layer, the layer everyone sees or the day layer, our logic, our direct answering a more indifferent and neutral side of ours.
Great for work, great for communication, great for getting further in life.
You have an layer that is beneath it or the night if you have seen mind hunters, you can get a good clear idea of the hurt that layer can give, yet also where our creativity comes from that artists have or writers or anyone with a creative outlet.
The night contains our pains, the night contains our secrets, our mysteries, we keep it hidden from others in shame, in doubt and it is actually a great place for answers, for solving and healing, but you need to know how to use it.
Also you can do great stuff in this world by able to use your shame and to use your hurt, to help others and also continuing to help and heal yourself!
The darkness is only scary if you think that it is scary, it is just unknown and filled with our past hurts and trauma's.
Yet, we are able once we learn how to see through, to become the best of ourselves!
Beneath both of those layers you have what i call 'dawn' it is the mix of night and day as you may have noticed, this layer can be reached once you have learned how to start healing and how to be able to complement it with your day or your logical side.
This will help you develop even further as a person and also your personality, it sets you free, while also being able to still communicate and still be social.
You actually learn how to use your creative outlet or any form of it with the whole of you, no more shame, no more guilt and moving beyond your trauma. Even using your trauma to become even stronger then ever before.
Also this can be referred to as our 'inner child'.
Then beneath all of it is our core, it is the place where we have our TRUE VALUES, the core values as so to speak in life coaching terms.
These values are things you are born with and it is up to you to find them, because they differ from that from your parents.
This is also the most abstract part of your mind, the place where even the unformed is born in a metaphorical way of speaking.
You can also say that this part is connected to the heart or the heart of your being, no matter if you believe in a soul or not, this is something that is just true.
If you grow up, you subconsciously try to follow these values, yet by not knowing them or not able to finding them can help you fall or worse.
You are you and you are who you are, nobody can judge it and if people do, then they do not know their core selves like you do!
Go Beyond
Now that you have an idea how in a metaphorical way your mind works. It is time to start getting to work!
The day side is quite obvious by now.
But how to deal with the night?
For most people it is hidden and deep or scary or even evil or hell.
Everyone has something to carry from their past, finding out what makes you carry your luggage and being able to confront and think about it. (this will go with a lot of pain and sadness, but you have moments that you feel great and moments in pure darkness).
But a direct confrontation is not always needed, your body give signs or options where to focus on how to continue working. Yes, your body wants to see itself healed!
Our subconcious is very interesting!
I mean it gives us limitless possibillities to solve puzzles not only about ourselves, but also about our lives!
But how to contact your subconsciousness without going through some spiritual journey?
It is actually quite easy!
Digging Deeper
Be warned, this will be your greatest challenge to overcome, there is no greater opponent then yourself!
And not every depressed thought needs to be analyzed like mad, this is for the issues that really stops you from growing and that stops you from being your ultimate self.
To start digging is to first properly Know Yourself, what do you like, what do you dislike, etc etc. Start bonding with yourself and what you want.
Next learn how to start to listen to your body, start reflecting on how you think most of the time.
There are things you feel you cannot do or days, times or moments you feel bad and depressed (except for processing loss, which is logical that you feel like that).
Reflect upon how it came to be and what you precisely do of why it happened or what did you think about?
Next start thinking about how your youth was and try to reflect on some of the bad moments or start trying to (if you got caught of a depressed thought or a limiting belief and it stops you from doing to make changes to your future) connect the dots or the lines of what you like to use.
Find a way for yourself to let it go or reflect upon why this issue was so important to you?
(there is a science ofcourse, which speaks about critical development moments in your youth that if damaged can stop your growth, this means that you need to repeat this exercise till it is fixed, because no matter how old you are, IT CAN BE FIXED!!!)After finding your answer, keep working on it and do not stop. You feel rotations of a lot of pain, but i belief in all of you and i know everyone can do it!
What does this all do, it helps you understand your subconscious behaviour and it lets you even control it and learn how to use it in the long run in positive ways.
Using your day and night together to create your own new DAWN
Is this the only way?
Direct answer to the question: NO!
There are many ways that helps us deal with the state we fall in once we let down our day, not all of them will heal you, but in the long run can still help you out.
Examples: Any creative outlet till even certain ways in the bedroom, everyone has their own way to do it and to deal with past hurt.
My personal way is to go very deep inside myself and study, observe and reflect and from letting go till repeating mantra's etc.
Together with the support of my friends and a special someone, it brought me to the person I am now, i still have quite a way to go, find the way that works for you and become the best you can be!
You deserve it!