INTIMACY:
This misunderstanding has been lingering for a while now, and I'm moved to address it, to bring clarity and shared knowledge to light. Intimacy isn't about who you permits to touch you.
Many people think intimacy begins and ends in the bedroom.
They are wrong.
Some people have shared a bed but have never shared their hearts.
Some people have kissed passionately but have never truly connected.
Some people have seen each other naked but have never been vulnerable enough to reveal their fears, insecurities, dreams, wounds, and struggles.
Real intimacy goes much deeper than physical attraction….Sit on your beautiful bed let me tell you .
Intimacy is who you text at 3 a.m. when life becomes overwhelming and sleep refuses to come.
Intimacy is the person you trust with your fears, your failures, and the parts of yourself that nobody else sees.
Intimacy is giving someone your attention when ten other people are competing for it.
Intimacy is hearing a song and immediately thinking about them.
Intimacy is the person who occupies a quiet corner of your mind no matter how busy life becomes.
Intimacy is feeling safe enough to be yourself without pretending, performing, or wearing a mask.
True intimacy is not built on lust.
Lust says, What can I get from you?
Intimacy says, I want to understand you.
Lust desires a body. Intimacy desires a soul.
Lust is excited by appearances. Intimacy is fascinated by character.
Lust disappears when beauty fades. Intimacy grows stronger when life becomes difficult.
The deepest relationships are not built on perfect bodies, expensive gifts, or grand romantic gestures.
They are built on conversations.
On trust. On understanding. On honesty.
On knowing that someone can see your scars and still choose to stay.
There is something beautiful about finding a person who understands your silence, notices your pain before you speak, celebrates your victories as if they were their own, and reminds you of your worth when you've forgotten it.
That is intimacy.
The world has taught us that physical connection is the highest form of closeness.
POTENTIAL:
Potential should never be the only reason you choose someone.
If I’m going to believe in your potential, I should already be seeing the work you’re putting in to become that person. Growth should be evident, not imagined.
Choose someone whose present gives you confidence in their future.
Marry what you consistently see, not just what you hope will eventually appear.
Potential is worth believing in when it is accompanied by effort, consistency, accountability, and visible growth.
Potential is a beautiful thing but only when it’s already becoming reality otherwise that is a serious gamble.
LOVE: isn't enough
Before you say “I do,” don’t just picture your partner dressed in white, smiling at the altar.
Picture them at their worst,Picture them sick.
Picture them broke,frustrated.
Picture them grieving,Picture them making mistakes.
Picture seasons where life isn’t kind to either of you.
Imagine the days they lose their job ,what about
seasons where life changes them in ways neither of you expected??
Then ask yourself:
“Can I still choose this person when they’re no longer easy to love?”
Because “for better, for worse” is not just a poetic line for the wedding day. It is the contract you sign for the rest of your life.
Nobody gets married hoping for difficult seasons. But preparing your heart for the possibility is far wiser than pretending they don’t exist.
If the thought of their worst version makes you want to run, you may not be ready for the lifetime you’re about to promise.
Love that only survives perfect conditions isn’t ready for marriage. Commitment begins where convenience ends.
you're reading from your handsome friend John Petra.
Peace 🕊️ and love 💕!
