Well, while going through the new initiative of #Kiss and reading about both the topics, i decided to choose the first one as it matches my topic well.
How seting up boundaries for some fronts of life feels like... Different and a bit rude too right. But setting up boundaries don't mean changing or stopping people from doing something, it's about setting up an imaginary line which people generally with you and you might feel bad or uncomfortable while bearing all those things. Setting up boundaries means no longer tolerating certain behaviours in your life. Distancing people from your life it's not the final act for the same but no accepting that behaviour anymore is one. It may be achieved by a change in your own approach, either begin cold or putting up limitations on the your excessive friendly and caring behaviour.
Tolerating those behaviours is, you tend to get more of it and in a weird way you are encouraging the continuation. I too have such experiences rather let me share one with you...
I have a friend circle of mine long time back it's been 2-3 years so we used to be really very close to each other and share everything, we were actually 4 what happened one day was a misunderstanding between 2 of them and me so it's obvious that the third one will also be with them the point of fight was quite personal, after all that happened we didn't talked to each other for so long and till now. Now what started happening was that in the centre, a particular one where we used to come and those 3 too one of them used to speak rubbish things when she used to cross.
Like it was so weird and disgusting to listen to such things so it had to come to an end. I used to think at night like what can the best and easiest way i could get out of this. I approached her and very politely talked about whatever she did to me that was bad on her part and rather being agressive or speaking something rubbish i very politely warned her to speak to her elders which shall be insulting on their part about how they have groomed their girl so as she had to accept it that the conversation doesn't gets exaggerated, it ended at that point of time only and we never talked to each other again or she never spoke even a word when she passed.
Giving a stop to this action was the most importance step in my life from not getting insulted or humiliated.
The day from which i started giving a rise to the minimalistic approach of mine i rather feel like it's good to be polite rather being agressive, it ruins you a lot you get to upset by doing all this.
Accepting and implementing patience over fighting and arguing is much better. I have litterly entering a phase of my life in which I a have totally gone silent, no connections, just living simple with my family because i don't feel like after all those behaviours of people acting on me that relationships are actually made for me because i don't say have one reason to believe now.
I feel better by categorising the importance of me after implementing a good boundaries of acceptance around me. That's well and good to live the most better life and try to find happiness all within myself.
