Growing up, I was faced with a lot of challenges, some of which made me doubt the existence of the creator, but I learnt with time that everything is a phase, and ever since then, it has been a motto and code that I live by. Whenever things get tough or starts to go down the drain, I tell myself that it is a phase, and it will pass with time.
One might wonder how I came up with this. As a child, I had very busy parents and they had almost no time to teach me the basic things that I needed to know. After my mom passed, I felt my life was over. How could I ever survive without my mom, even though we weren't too close? I felt it'd be tougher to stay with my dad as we barely knew each other, but that scary phase passed and my life didn't end.
I ended up in my cousin's house because my dad felt I had a better chance of growing into a better woman there. I didn't like the idea. Everyday, I thought of ways to run away from there, but years sped by and I finally left the house at the right time, and still, life didn't end.
Adulthood hit pretty fast, and I was really scared, confused, and unfocused. I didn't think I could make it on my own, but years has passed and I'm still here, growing stronger and better. And through it all, life didn't end. Time passed, and so did the problems or the challenges I was faced with at that time.
I came up with this because it kept me going. When things go wrong, I tell myself that yesterday is past, and this phase too shall pass.
Has it been working for me? Yes, it has. If I hadn't immersed myself in this belief, maybe I would've given up on life a long time ago.
The journey has not been easy, but surprisingly all those things have become stories of the past, and it was only possible because that phase passed.
I can't say there hasn't been times when the phases seemed like it would never pass. I've been in such situations, and it can be frustrating, but will I ever stop following this motto? No, I can never stop because it wasn't just a random belief that I picked up. It was a code, a life hack that has kept me going, even in the darkest times right from my childhood days, up until now. And I believe that it will continue to keep me going until there's no more phase left to pass.
I have made it a habit too to tell my friends this as a way of encouragement. No one should ever let the present situation press them down. It is a phase that you have to go through, and eventually, it'd pass with time. This is my life motto and code that I have lived by, and will continue to live by.
