Well, there it is. Take it or leave it.

I was recently referred to as a “complete hypocrite” in the comments of one of my posts! Why? - Because I was standing my ground on a specific matter which I feel strongly about. The accusation flew at me because I “pretend” to be inspirational and motivational but am actually really negative and aggro… especially “towards men” apparently. I have been enlightened to many an accusation and slander thrown in my direction of late – all of which simply make me smile, because small minds discuss people, average minds discuss events and great minds discuss ideas.

Can I just explain something right here – being a positive person (which I am), does NOT mean that you do not struggle. It does not mean that you lack a backbone or opinions when it comes to certain matters. Positive people get sad too… yip. We get mad, just like everyone else and we are also capable of outlook that may be offensive to some along the way. Just like the rest of you, we are spiritual beings having a human experience.

I suppose, the one thing that does set us aside from others in many respects… could be boiled down to a word. Resilience - The definition of such, for those that are unclear… is: the capacity to recover from difficulties and/or to “spring” back into shape. This knack is not one which is generally handed as a birth right, but rather earned - Often born through adversity and for this very reason - worn with unwavering conviction.

If I were to wave a white flag every time someone threw a bucket of “shit” in my face or talked crap and lies about me behind it – I would not have made it past the age of 10! As a parent, one of the first things you learn in the “protection of your own” is just how CRUEL humankind can be… and very often, kids – because they have no filter - take what they hear from adults and conjure their own versions of such – which more often than not, tip the scales of brutality.

I was never a “social circle” girl… not in the traditional sense, no. I was born without a filter and apparently I never got a memo for the collection date and place for one, haha! I have had a voice since I was 4 years old when I told a cashier to “shut up” because she was interfering in my decision making process, haha! Yes, I suffered the consequence of that voice via the wrath of my mother - travelling air born over most of the speed humps on the way home in our little blue Mini… removing every single toy from my room, crying myself to sleep (after kicking at my door for a good hour) in my bedroom and then finally having to pack everything back again – but did that break my spirit? No.

There is much to be said for those that have spent large portions of their lives under the thumb of adversity and challenge. I don’t argue the fact that there are many that sadly surrender to the abuse of the humans that surround them – I knew one of them well. A “societal reject” but one of the best human beings I have ever met. He gave up on life at the age of 25 because the people that he relied on did not believe in him – ie. his family. Yes, I and “we” were there for him for a period of two years. Unlike many others who passed him off… we got to know Jake and ADORED HIM! There will forever be a part of responsibility I feel for his suicide, because when I closed my business I feel like he lost his life line of support. And THIS is precisely my point! NOT everyone has the internal emotional and/or mental capacity to repeatedly see themselves through external abuse and ridicule.

What YOU may see as “trivial” ridicule could be MONUMENTAL to the recipient. You have NO idea what that individual has already endured – so you have ZERO gauge as to the impact of your seemingly flippant remark. The week before Jake hung himself in his bathroom by his belt, he had gone to his father to tell him that he had seen an ad for him to get involved in the IT industry in the USA. His father’s response to him was “well fuck off then”.

WAKE UP PEOPLE! Your shallow and selfish cruelty towards others is the advertisement for HUMAN DISGRACE! Just STOP IT! Life is like this: We don’t all have to LIKE one another – quite frankly, life would be boring if we did… but we CAN be MINDFUL of our actions and at the VERY LEAST we can be CIVIL toward one another.

Life is so short! I wonder when people will start being REAL with one another! Stop bickering over TRIVIAL “KAK” (as we call it here in SA) and just work together! Glory, we have enough to contend with “on a world scale” – the LEAST we could do as “people” is stand together.

I have had some head on collisions with a few here, as have many others – can WE not just agree to disagree “on the details of shit” but stand together as a WHOLE?! I have had fall outs with other people and am STILL confused by the lies being told about me. I have lost a REAL LIFE friend compliments of this blockchain and it’s backstabbing… and I am just DONE!!!! Done with ALL this BS!!!!!! I gave up something (PHC) - deleted an entire server that I spent almost 4 yrs building because I am SO SICK of the UGLINESS in this place – so now I speak as nothing more than an individual on Hive. Perhaps that was what was needed… so I could have a voice without “public obligation & responsibility”.

So I re-published a handful of old posts once a year each over the last three years. Has any ONE of you weighed that up against what I have given to Hive as a WHOLE and the QUANTITY of RELATIVELY GOOD "new" content I have published? Probably not – and that is ok. But could we ALL STOP trying to ”rip the other a new one”. I was REALLY disappointed to see what skramatters went through the other day. Did anyone THINK to be emotionally sensitive to his REAL LIFE situation before reducing his earnings to shit? Seemingly not. I lost my mother, almost lost my eldest brother TWICE, almost died myself - and ALL I got after almost 4 years of dedication to this blockchain was a new asshole and some ludicrous lies?! WTF people.... seriously, WTF!!!! - Is this how we encourage one another in the 21st century?!

We will NEVER get anywhere if we continue to “pretend” to work together but stab one another in the back at the same time. Communication is ALWAYS key. Families manage to get through this BS, we can too. We are a family – of a different kind - and NOW is when we should be leading by example.

Earlier today I listened to @pixiepost rant and I have to say that it was like inhaling a breath of fresh air. The frustration is REAL for every single one of us, but turning against one another is NOT the answer. Giving up is not the answer. Blockchain is supposed to be the ESCAPE from the chains… of what use is it if we are all strangling one another at the start?!

I came to this blockchain because I wanted to find a way OUT of the “rat race” – It became my home, a place of solace and reprieve. I promoted it over the last 3+ years because I not only LOVE what it stands for, but I love the PEOPLE here. How about we work TOGETHER?! We have BIGGER problems coming our way and when that finally becomes a realisation – all this “SHIT” will be of ZERO consequence.

So - here I am, "positive me" - reaching out to all of you! Enough with ALL THE crap already! Enough with the bullying and BS! Enough with the lies and deceit! Enough with the negativity, pessimism and self-defeat. Take a look at the BIG PICTURE - we are ALL in this TOGETHER. and I am speaking out - being HONEST - TRUTHFUL because if I don't, it will ALL be forever grey. NOT a rant, NOT dramatic - just REAL! because BEHIND THE KEYBOARD we are ALL REAL!!!!!!!!

So there you have it. Take from it what you will and leave the rest. I am SO sick of bitterness! One divorce afforded me enough of that to last a life time. I am FAR from perfect. SO are ALL OF YOU! How about we just make it work! We might even find that we enjoy it along the way!

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Edit - I have actually removed all the tags originally placed in this post because whilst my intention behind this post was PURELY to try and "fix" certain things (if that is even possible)... or to at least open the platform of healthy and constructive communication, I think perhaps it may do the opposite. Sigh. Guess its the thought that counts at the end of the day.