Somehow, I believe that humanity would be glad if everyone had a slow and calm temper as opposed to the variations we have today. Well, we see different people with different approaches to managing anger. While some could be calm and reserved even in the face of situations that tend to trigger, others are quick to get angry and react, and these people are known as hot-tempered.
The topic of hot temper is a serious one because of the destructive effects that arise, which we've come to know either from what we've seen physically or the narratives which we've heard. I won't be going into the temperament thing for some reason. While I dive into this matter, I remember a post I came across recently which somehow resonated with the belief I've had on a similar matter.
It suggested that though one would have grown up with some negative characters, they have the responsibility to do better and rid themselves of such characters and attitudes. In a nutshell, such a situation shouldn't be a yardstick for bad behaviour and unhealthy attitudes from people. We have to be responsible for ourselves, and that means working on those bad characters as we've grown and related with people in the real world to know the perils.
In that regard, I don't think the excuse for a hot temper should be welcomed. I mean, the destructive effects are there from minor to major. When this is made as an excuse, such individuals won't see the problem with it and hence the need to change. The destructive effects on themselves and others won't even be really evident to them because they have an excuse to bury it in.
Something I believe in life is that when you tend to give excuses for things you risk the possibility of change and making efforts for something better, and I mean this in a general sense. It's like a validation for doing whatever one does. And in the case of people being hot-tempered, it makes them not see the need to change nor recognise the destructive effects that come from such a behaviour or character.
This is not me saying it's easy. It's usually hard to stop something like this. But the will to stop it and change for the better starts in acknowledging the wrong in it and not seeking a yardstick for a destructive character. People have committed heinous acts and crimes all because they let their temper get the best of them at the slightest and it does no one good; not them or society. With a strong will and desire, people with a hot temper can change.
Society can help by first of all not welcoming excuses for being hot-tempered. Such individuals should be made to see the harm in it and the problem it causes or can cause for them and others, lovingly. Some help can be employed, be it therapy kind of help or other forms to help people control their hot temper. This and other forms of help can be useful to address the issue of being hot-tempered and its possible effects.
