Most importantly, you live...

Because growing up doesn't mean erasing the past. It means understanding him so that he stops directing, in silence, our adult life. Besides, we don't transfer people, we only transfer meanings. Why?... am I talking about this? ... Because there are objects that were never just objects, for example a teddy bear, a blanket, a house, a song or a place can become much more than what they represent because according to the context and the person they have a meaning transferred by some situation.

They can save the emotional meaning of an experience lived in our early years of life in our early childhood. In childhood, when we still do not have enough words to understand what we are feeling, we build bonds, associate emotions and find ways to feel security, comfort and belonging and many times we do it with objects.

Sometimes an object becomes the support of an absence. An experience acquires a meaning that remains. And years later, without realizing it, certain people, relationships or circumstances can awaken those emotions that we thought we had forgotten... Has it happened to you? Well, I do.

That is what invites us to understand the double transference from our genesis while we are children, and we are not necessarily reacting to what is happening today. Sometimes, we are responding to the sometimes good, sometimes not so good meaning of that which. it has for us, built long before we could comprehend it... Because we were kids.

It's not the object. It's not the person. It's not the circumstance. It is the emotional meaning that we have deposited there, and recognizing it allows us to stop repeating automatic responses, understand our way of relating and discover which part of our history continues to participate in our present decisions.

Here we can include four fundamental pillars such as culture, family, education and religion. And is that after learning or memorizing the most important thing is just to pretend that we look alike. And so we are surviving and as it comes, we are giving it.

Suddenly, we meet someone who shows us: another family, education, culture or religion. And from there the so-called crusade of life begins.

Mine is better than yours. So now it's to defend like beasts that we learned. Who would want to change after so many years of repeating the same thing?

The years pass, we learn, we experiment and one day, there is no struggle anymore. Mine is not everything and that day I stop being a crude copy.

I leave the lot, I dare, I question myself because I have to ask myself: what do you want? Carl Jung was right when he said that "we are all born original and we die a copy"...

Janitze.🌷