鈥嶻ou can be an intelligent, responsible person, know perfectly well what suits you and still end up doing the opposite when an emotion overcomes you.
And what a shame, because then comes the guilt, the explanations, the promises to change and even the contempt for oneself. But no one taught you what to do with those 5 minutes when you feel like we can't take it anymore, and we get all worked up.
Can we change other people? Of course! But in our mind.
This is precisely the job that many of us have been avoiding for years. Now, let's think about how many times we've made a decision that we knew would hurt us, just because at that moment, just at that fucking moment, it made us feel better.
That is the danger of living obeying our impulses, we get a few minutes of relief and then spend days, months or even years paying the consequences... Why? well, because there are people who make us dream big in a single conversation! Those are the vitamin people, and there are others who turn off our ambition in less than five (5 minutes), those are the energy vampires, let's choose well with whom we surround ourselves.
We can change the way we see people, in how we interpret their behaviors and the meaning we give to their actions. We don't change what they do, what they think or who they are. We changed the story we built about them.
And when our interpretation changes, our way of relating, responding and acting also changes. Sometimes the change we expect from the other begins with the look with which we observe him.
What do you think? Do you agree with me? There is no fortune, luxuries, cars of the year, or sophisticated restaurants... For me, the maximum fetish of a contemporary adult like me, is to go to bed with the absolute certainty that no alarm will sound the next day, nor will there be anything or anyone sucking my energy.
May the fear of making mistakes not postpone our life until the time to live no longer reaches us... Being alive involves risks and things that we do not control... let's not stop living even if we have to suffer. At the age of 60 and over, we have learned about so many borderline situations that we already see different horizons and are ready to go through any circumstance. It is also true, at least I think so, that humility sometimes allows us to recognize our petty areas or our arrogant or proud reactions... What a waste of time... as if life were eternal... as if we had time... For me this is true wealth.
Janitze.馃尫
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