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(IJCH) THE SCENARIO - Are you “Trying Too hard”?
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I am JaiChai.
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THE SCENARIO
Here’s the situation - an all-to-common scenario:
You’ve been trying to do something (or have something) for quite sometime, but it’s just not happening. You feel like you’ve done all your homework and “checked all the blocks” required for the task.
Whatever it is, you feel it’s super-important you - want it so badly, it hurts! You begin to envy the other people who already have it. )
You wonder why, with all the hard work you’ve done, you don’t have it by now too? Sometimes you get angry, depressed, or discouraged because you don’t have it yet. You wonder why other people seem to cruise through life while you are struggling.
At this point, many people simply give up.
They rationalize. They make excuses. They blame other people, their lack of this or that, and finally, they start blaming institutions.
Trying Too Hard
What exactly is trying too hard?
Simple.
It feels bad.
And the results you seek are not materializing.
This article will reveal a better alternative, a more effective - yet counterintuitive - way to get the things you want in life.
Bad Vibes
The words of THE SCENARIO wreaks negativity.
It’s no wonder that what was desired never came to fruition.
Let’s take the first sentence and explore its impact on the scheme of things.
Sentence #1:
You’ve been trying to do something (or have something) for quite sometime, but it’s just not happening.
The first thing you should know is that “trying to do” something is a wishy-washy way of giving yourself a backdoor excuse if things don’t work out.
"Trying" really equates to a half-hearted-to-average attempt at something. It doesn’t involve total responsibility for your own actions.
And of course, with no real commitment to the project, things will definitely not work out.
Why do so many people “try” to do things, instead of simply DO them?
In a word: Fear.
Fear of success and fear of failure.
Afraid of Success
The fear of success is a deep-seated (usually subconscious) fear that life would be worse if one succeeds.
That is, more stress, loss of friends, and eventual failure. It’s often seen in people who seem talented and motivated, but who always end up sabotaging themselves before they succeed.
Since most people aren’t even aware of their own fears of success, they wonder why they continually run into “bad luck”.
In reality, they are the real cause of all the seemingly random, unfortunate events.
Afraid of Failing
The Fear/Manifestation Paradox
Remember this:
What you fear, you will attract. And what you resist will persist.
Why?
Because the Universe doesn’t understand statements posed in the negative sense (i.e., I will not…, I don’t want…, I will no longer…, No more …. , etc.).
It simply latches onto to the predominant object or condition in your thoughts and delivers it!
For example, some people fear being fat/fatter. They think being fat will turn off their mate or keep potential suitors away.
They’re afraid that they will need a new wardrobe of “fat” clothes. They think it will make people believe that they’re lazy or stupid, etc.
Get the picture?
It’s all based on fear of this or fear of that.
So, the thought of “I don’t want to be fat” continually runs around in their minds.
And guess what?
The only thing the Universe hears is “be fat” and delivers more opportunities to “be fat” to them!
That’s why a fat person cannot get slim if he keeps thinking about how fat he is.
That’s why a sick person cannot get healthy if he keeps reminding himself how sick he is.
That’s why a poor person cannot get wealthy if he keeps thinking about how poor he is.
And that’s why a person afraid of failure cannot succeed if he keeps thinking about failing.
The first time I was tasked to jump out of an airplane, I was scared to death.
Ever since I was knocked down by a gust of wind when visiting the top of he Empire State building at the age of 5 years old, I harbored a severe fear of heights.
My old Gunnery Sergeant kept yelling, “Son, Fear and Desire can not live in the same mind! You want out of my airplane. YOU NEED out of my airplane!”
And as I got closer to the edge, he gave me a boot in the ass!
Funny thing.
The panic only lasted a millisecond and all of a sudden I was fascinated, then intoxicated by the experience of flying like Superman.
Imagine that?
To this day, I absolutely love free fall parachuting - especially "Para-Frog" jumps at night! Hoo-Yah!!
You must only think of what you want, not what you don’t want.
If you are fat and want to be fit and sexy, think only of how good it feels being fit and sexy.
If you want health, think only health.
If you want to be rich, think only in rich terms.
And if you want to succeed, think only about success.
Next time we will discuss:
THE SCENARIO - Sentence #2:
You feel like you’ve done all your homework and “checked all the blocks” required for the task.
Until next time, be brave enough to take a Different Path...
By JaiChai
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- JaiChai "My mind was a terrible thing to waste..."
About the Author
He is a retired U.S. Military veteran. Believing that school was too boring, he dropped out of High School early; only to earn an AA, BS and MBA in less than 4 years much later in life – while working full-time as a Navy/Marine Corps Medic. In spite of a fear of heights and deep water, he freefall parachuted out of airplanes and performed diving ops in very deep, open ocean water.
He spends his days on an island paradise with his teenage daughter, longtime girlfriend and three dogs.
Parting Shot -
"Be your own silent, secret Hero. It will make people wonder what you're always smiling about..." - JaiChai