Pressure generally is not my kind of thing, so I don't easily give in to whatever kind of thing that will place me in a tight corner.
I have practically faced pressure from people around me. But it gives in to more pressure when it is coming from your peers, people you grow together with, people you thought you will be at the same level but life decided to put it in the opposite direction in their favour, making you look like you never deserve or didn't not work hard for it.
What I came to discover is the ability to overcome whatever comes to me as a pressure. A thing that looks like a must do something doesn't work on my part, all I do wherever I am faced with such a situation, I just focus on what makes me happy.
What makes other people happy can not be the same as what makes you happy, so in respect to that what you do to yourself is discovering that which will work in the right part putting a perpetual smile on your face regardless of the time it came.
But then there is one thing that I will never be pressured into doing and that is getting married.
This is because it's a lifetime thing especially when it is a church wedding where it has been pronounced that till death do you path, where it's for better or worse. Taking all those vows and not keeping it is a sin already so I won't be pressured into going into that institution called marriage, just like I said I will love myself to be happy.
I have sat and watched my younger ones marry and advice have been coming “better go and get married” see people you are older than are getting married off couse and you know that's none of my business as I have my goal to achieve, other people's achievements can never be the same as mine. So why bother when your lane is practically different.
I want to marry well and right. I have set a standard and until that standard is met marriage will not set in, one thing first, goals are set and according to their priorities.
I am meeting them according to how they are set up so when I get to the point where marriage comes in then I will go ahead to beat that pressure.
One thing I observed about peer pressure and pressure from people around is that they will still be the one to mock the hell out of your life if at the end you fail to meet the standard of what you were pressured into.
You begin to hear words like he knows he can't do it, why did he start? forgetting that they made you go into what you are facing. Now at that point they are supposed to render a helping hand, not sit back and laugh at you while you struggle with what you got yourself into as a result of them.
So to avoid that act I will rather wait till I am set for that for that stage of life.
