We live in a dynamically changing world in which our memories of childhood, accumulated experience and even sentiments are inapplicable in today's reality of our heirs. Do we understand them? Where does the thread go? Why is communication with our children difficult and why do we often have the feeling that we do not know what is happening with our child, for which, as we say - do we do everything? Why are our children unwilling to share with us? Well ... because we ask a lot! The child, though a small person, is Man - with his emotions and aspirations, soul emotions and problems. We should never forget that the child is a little Magellan and is just starting his life around the world. Everything is new, interesting, unknown! The great emotional discoveries are yet to come, they happen every day, and there is nothing in the textbooks and teachings of the elderly. It is one thing to tell you that the water is wet, it is different to dip into it. And the instructions in this case do not help. Treat the child as a friend with whom you share interesting things with each other. The child grows emotionally every day and needs to share his emotions first and foremost. The specificity of this communication, however, is mostly in the form of a game. Have him tell you or recreate the most interesting five minutes of your day - those in which something important happened to him, try to look through his eyes. So you will find out what is what really excites him and he fills his mind with images and thoughts. You will be able to look into his world, where the hierarchy of important things really is different, so you will get to the unspoiled sandwich. Of course, it is also very important that you speak the language. Do you think you speak the same language? Look at a chat, with her permission, to see how it is expressed when talking to your likes! No matter how hard you try to reach it, remember that you are the parent. You define the rules and it is very important that there are no exceptions. Because if you have introduced a ban that you do not yourself, it immediately removes your trust in communication and eventually alienates. For example, it is pointless to talk to him anything against smoking if you smoke yourself. Children always compare what you say with what you do. And if there is a mismatch, they stop believing you. And worse! They copy the example - they say one, but do another. The key to communicating with children is mutual trust. When the child ceases to trust you, it is "off". Goes to another reality where there are other rules. And then he turns into the Pokemon child - it's supposed to be in the room, next to you, but he really is not ...
source:kenguru.bg
