This is a topic I've been talking to my best friend. People say we can't learn from others unless we live it ourselves. I think that it might be true, but I also think it is not. I have seen so many things that maybe, I have risen too high in my standards regarding relationships and friendship.
I'm a very easy-going person, I love animals, music, books, writing and some other cliché. I don't like lies, egocentrism, narcissism, bullies, violent people, cheaters… But I Think that many people don't like that either.
From my sister, I learned that I don't want biological children, I don't want a husband or wife that is insecure of our relationship, I don't want miscommunication or zero confidence. My sister keeps her phone locked and doesn't like her husband to take it. He's not so innocent, though. He keeps passwords to all of his apps and doesn't like my sister to touch his phone. From that I can see that there's no confidence and no communication, although they say they are good together.
From my friends, I learned about toxic masculinity. People who claim to love you, when clearly they don't. People who ghost you without a reason, without giving any explanation and then blame you for not keep track of them. People who play with your feelings without taking into account that a relationship is a thing of two. Communication that becomes unilateral. Humiliations that they let it pass because of their love for their lover.
I have learned this weekend that we have to have some dignity, otherwise, we are going to be just puppets. I have seen many friends suffer from love, and relatives too. This helps me to understand that if I am going to be with someone, I need to be a good girlfriend, but also ask for a good person too. Someone who cares about me, about my feelings, about what I think and what I need.
Sometimes love it's not enough to be in a toxic relationship. We need to know when to go out of it before it's too late.
