Cuando se pierde a un ser querido es común que entre las palabras de aliento que nos pueden decir para consolarnos, es “resignación”, particularmente a mi esa palabra me traía un poco de conflicto, no porque no supiera el significado sino porque es algo que no se logra de un día para otro, es necesario vivir el duelo y este en realidad no termina sino que se transforma en lo que la gente llama resignación. Por un lado la palabra resignación nos hace referencia a la aceptación y a la conformidad, es decir que se acepta la adversidad y se está conforme con la irreversible realidad, pero lo que la gente ajena a al duelo considera resignación es cuando que la persona afectada deja de externalizar su duelo, es decir, no lo ven llorando y lamentándose, esto puede pasar y no necesariamente significa estar sintiendo resignación.
When a loved one is lost, it is common that among the words of encouragement that they can say to console us, is "resignation", particularly for me that word brought me a bit of conflict, not because I did not know the meaning but because it is something that It is not achieved from one day to the next, it is necessary to experience the duel and this does not really end but rather becomes what people call resignation. On the one hand, the word resignation refers to acceptance and conformity, that is to say that adversity is accepted and one agrees with the irreversible reality, but what people outside of mourning consider resignation is when the affected person leaves to externalize their grief, that is, they do not see them crying and lamenting, this can happen and it does not necessarily mean they are feeling resignation.
Many years ago when I began to study arts at the university, a colleague over 50 years old joined my section, she was a very jovial lady, with a strong character but at the same time with an excellent sense of humor, as well as being a very talented, she had no problem joking with the youngest at the university, her anecdotes were very entertaining and she was very dear to us, once she was telling an anecdote about her father, suddenly she began to cry and laugh at the same time, I remained silent and she only said how many years ago her father had died, I felt moved because I saw that the mourning was still present in her but at the same time she had resigned herself.
Al cabo de más o menos un año, murió mi papá, viví un largo periodo de tristeza y al mismo tiempo estoy consiente de haber tomado malas decisiones a partir de entonces, me deprimí y sentí que mi vida en muchos aspectos se había arruinado, pero no entendía en ese entonces por qué me sentía tan mal, es decir, para mi la pérdida de mi papá fue algo terrible pero creí haber alcanzado la resignación, pero actualmente me pasa lo mismo que mi amiga de la universidad, no puedo mencionar o ver una foto de mi papá sin llorar , lloro aunque trate de evitarlo.
After a year or so, my dad died, I lived a long period of sadness and at the same time I am aware that I have made bad decisions since then, I became depressed and felt that my life had been ruined in many ways, but I did not understand at that time why I felt so bad, that is, for me the loss of my father was something terrible but I thought I had reached resignation, but currently the same thing happens to me as my friend from the university, I cannot mention or see a photo of my dad without crying, I cry even though I try to avoid it.
En la última visita que tuve a la tumba de mi papá, mi hijo como siempre estaba conmigo, notamos que al lado de la tumba había crecido una planta cuyo nombre desconozco pero sus flores son amarillas y muy bonitas, siempre que voy allí imagino como seria si mi papá hubiese conocido a mi hijo, pero al mismo tiempo se que posiblemente ya estuviese muerto por otra causa, pues el murió a los 86 años, entonces pienso que la resignación ha venido ahora por más que siga llorando por él, porque se que a estar alturas el no podría estar vivo, es decir, tendría 94 y aunque se que hay personas que llegan a esa edad, su estado de salud estaría muy deteriorado y por lo tanto, ahora me siento un poco más tranquila de que no sea así, la realidad es que ahora las flores han nacido de la tierra donde fue sembrado mi papa y mi hijo ha crecido a partir de mi, como un arbol cuyas raíces vienen de mi papá quien fue un hombre muy bueno, así que ahora expreso que la resignación ha llegado finalmente.
On the last visit I had to my father's grave, my son was always with me, we noticed that a plant had grown next to the grave whose name I don't know but its flowers are yellow and very pretty, whenever I go there I imagine how it would be If my father had met my son, but at the same time I know that he was possibly already dead for another cause, since he died at the age of 86, then I think that resignation has come now even though I continue crying for him, because I know that At this point, he could not be alive, that is, he would be 94 and although I know that there are people who reach that age, their state of health would be very deteriorated and therefore, now I feel a little calmer that this is not the case. , the reality is that now the flowers have been born from the land where my father was planted and my son has grown from me, like a tree whose roots come from my father who was a very good man, so now I express that the resignation has finally arrived.
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