Saludos a todos en Holus&Lotus, me uno a la Incitativa de @mosa71 para escribir un poco acerca de mi como persona cuidadora, esto creo que es un rasgo de personalidad y también puede que sea una conducta aprendida de mi madre, la cual su lenguaje de amor es los actos de servicio, entonces en mi mente siempre he creído que para demostrar amor se deben hacer cosas por la otra persona, es por eso que se cuanto me ama mi mamá porque ella ha dedicado gran parte de su vida a ayudarme, pero también soy un poco como ella y en lo que respecta a mis responsabilidades con mi hijo y con mi mamá siempre trato de dar todo de mi, al punto que me descuido a mi misma, soy una cuidadora desarmonizada, esto es algo que he tratado de equilibrar en estos últimos años, pero aun cuando no quiera tomar un tiempo para descansar, el cuerpo me ha obligado a hacerlo, por ejemplo cuando la rinitis crónica me ataca ya no puedo hacer todas las cosas que debo hacer en el día, sin embargo, sigo cumpliendo gran parte de estas responsabilidades aunque mi cuerpo lo resienta, es muy difícil poder decir que un día es solo para mi, creo que olvidé cuando fue la última vez que me haya tomado un día completamente libre.
Greetings to everyone at Holus&Lotus, I join the@mosa71 Initiative to write a little about myself as a caregiver, I think this is a personality trait and it may also be a behavior learned from my mother, which her language of love is acts of service, so in my mind I have always believed that to show love you must do things for the other person, that is why I know how much my mom loves me because she has dedicated a large part of her life to helping me, but I am also a bit like her and when it comes to my responsibilities with my son and with my mother I always try to give my all, to the point that I neglect myself, I am a disharmony caregiver, this is something that I have tried to balance in recent years, but even when I don't want to take time to rest, my body has forced me to do it, for example when chronic rhinitis attacks me I can no longer do all the things I should do during the day, however, I continue to fulfill a large part of these responsibilities even though my body suffers, it is very difficult to be able to say that a day is just for me, I think I forgot when was the last time I took a day completely free.
At home I don't do everything, the responsibilities are shared with my mom, but I know that if I don't do my part, no one will do it for me, for example, I handle the banking transactions, because my mom doesn't know much and He is always afraid of making a mistake, such as banking platforms are a problem because they easily get blocked, so my mom couldn't do that by herself, I know it's a simple example, but in my house there are certain things that only I can do, so it would be selfish of me just to say, that one day I will not do what corresponds to me. That's why I always put myself last between my son and my mother, they go first and I simply do it because it should be that way for me.
Now, this caring personality that I have is not a problem as such, it is something positive and that gives me peace, because if I know that my son and my mother are fine, I will be fine, now I will tell you that in terms of friendships and even As a couple this has been a problem on some occasions, currently I have the happiness of having good friends, those where affection is reciprocal and therefore I know that I can count on these people just as they can count on me, but in the past I had very bad relationships where there were people who only took advantage of my nobility, where my acts of service as a demonstration of affection became the rule, where by mistake I also tended to take a maternal role, it could be said that I had a tendency to mother people and took advantage of it. So in retrospect I did a lot of things for people who ended up being abusive and ungrateful, it really took me a while to realize that these people weren't worth my care.
Today I am more selective with the people around me and I try to identify when they are taking advantage of me, because being a person who likes to take care of others should not be a defect. With my son and my mother, it is still difficult for me to take time alone to think about myself, I think that rarely in my life have I never fallen asleep before my son, even though he is with my mother, I can't just be sleeping if he doesn't He has fallen asleep, I know that he shouldn't be like this for the rest of his life, I know that one day he will be independent and I hope so. I hope one day to bring you the happy news that he has taken a day just for me 😅
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I hope you liked it. I invite you to read my next publications and I will always be willing to answer your questions and comments, you can also follow me and contact me on any of my social networks. Thank you!