The walls we build around us to avoid grief, also keep us from happiness, never choose someone becomes prioritasmu when for them you are merely an option to backup.
When confused choosing a life partner, please choose the one who makes you be more happy with him. Or choose him makes you so much better, not only is he makes you smitten.
Because in the end, a relationship is a matter of reciprocity between each other. Simple, but often lain neglected.