Often times, most people care about you because of some particular needs you solve for them or have been solving for them per time. But caring for one another can grow, depending on how it's nurtured.
Question;
Do people care about you or what you can do for them?
Have you ever wondered whether people truly value you or simply value what you can offer them. Share your thoughts, personal experiences or observations about genuine care, relationships and human connections
On my own opinion, observations, understanding or experiences, I believe that caring about someone or loving someone does not totally start and end on the first premises of solving needs of life, it can exceed that.
As we all know that first impression matters a lot in all relationships. I strongly believe that, when you first meet someone, the enthusiasm of who this new friend or person is to you is still tinkling in your mind and brain, you are happy and quite expectant of that person if you genuinely love or want that person.
For example; if one is on a dating relationship when you fall in love with the opposite sex, either male or female, the affection of both of you that are involved is enormously enthusiastic about each other and for your new found love.
You guys will start talking to each other, getting to know each other getting deeper into your affections for each other is real at this point. Probably, your chemistry combines together, I mean if both of you truly love each other and are planning to get deeper knowing each other or having agreed to become husband and wife
Immediately or gradually the love scenario will start changing, your interests for each other will start shifting grounds from the ordinary grabbing what he or she can offer to carering for each other deeply and that with and jealousy sometimes, you will consciously or unconsciously begin to care for each other, protecting each other from harms or against harmful people or environment. It's very natural for and about whomever you love.
Even in the absence of one of you, each other's interest in that relationship will start changing to protection, preservations and gathering of resources together for both of you now and for the future together, for your support, success and building up somethings intentionally together to make the best of that new and young growing union of yours, instead of wasting resources or grabbing to pull him or her down
This is how genuine love, relationships and proper companionships are built to move forward and thrive against such relationships that each individual doesn't love each other or themselves. They will always rather tear themselves apart, hating each other and may never help in any of these little, little things that build relationships.
You know, every quality, reliable, secured and sustainable relationships is built like a house. From the foundation, mostly each of you that are involved or that owned this baby relationship must feed it like a new born baby with truth, good characters, love, affection for each other and try studying each other's likes and don'ts and carefully inculcating what you have learned about each other into your own daily characters, avoiding what could create offenses, anger or resentment to each other.
You must add these ingredients that make relationships to stand the test of time. Into your relationship for it to stand and for lasting purposes.
None of you can be stagnant and expect the relationship to move forward or to become perfect, no, no, rather make some efforts to understand each other and to respect each other's basic characteristics, trying to manage each other's challenges because nobody, no any individual is perfect.
These are those underground activities that gives credents and sustenance to loving each other in relationships. When each member has really done their own job concerning the relationship, it will start growing like a human being and bloosom into admirable union and each of you can start caring for your personalities and not just about only what he can bring to the table, you can now enjoy each other and desire to always be with each other. There will be no manipulations about your love for yourselves.
You must create time to build anything of values, quality relationships are valuable, they are not free, don't just bind yourself with unrealistic boundaries and expect the other person to keep building everything you guys need to become better people, allow yourself to learn, and be informed
Valuable things are built with integrity and intentionality, by you both creating these values, you can now prioritize each other and what concerns you both
These and more are the genuine experiences of a lasting relationship or what makes another person to care about you and not only about what you can do for them or for him or for her.
Life is all about give and take, nothing works itself
One serious secret about genuine and lasting relationships is that love doesn't last forever but respect and caring for one another, lasts a lifetime in relationships. You may not believe it, but, this is the truth. If he or she loves you but you can't give respect to him or her, one day, he or she might decide otherwise.
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