" React Appropriately But Do Not Hold Grudges" is an interesting piece by David J.pittman
I find that quote to be quite interesting
This is a fine piece that will help us all if we can think rationally and apply the information.
I would like to make a few suggestions. First, if you are going to be upset, don't let it get out of hand. You might need to take a break and go outside for a smoke or to the washroom if your emotions are really getting the best of you. Get plenty of fresh air. Try to relax by taking deep breaths and listening to calming music.
Secondly, remember that everyone makes mistakes. We all have something to learn and we should not hold grudges. We also have to accept our shortcomings and learn from them. If someone makes a mistake, they should learn from that mistake. We should all make it a point to learn something new every single day.
Thirdly, if you are going to be angry, do not express your anger. Everyone has their limits. If someone does not listen or make your wishes for the best, don't yell at them. Try to find constructive ways to solve the problem instead of lashing out. Don't let anger ruin your healthy feelings.
Fourthly, if you are not happy, then let it go. We all make mistakes. There is no reason to keep hurting yourself over what someone did or didn't do. You are better off if you can forgive and forget. Holding on to anger will only make the problem worse.
Fifthly, do not react appropriately when your partner asks you to do something that you really don't want to do. Be strong and refuse to comply. This will make the other person feel uncomfortable and will make it harder for you to do the task. If this happens frequently, your relationship might be at risk.
Sixthly, if you are still angry at your ex, make sure you don't contact them. This is counterproductive. Instead, look for other opportunities that will help you. Do not ignore your grudges; instead, confront them. This will show your partner that you are strong enough to move on without them and it will make them reconsider their decision.
Finally, if you find yourself constantly feeling angry or upset, consider taking a break from your relationship. Take time away and breathe deeply. Go to a spa or a yoga class. Take deep breaths and focus on positive thoughts. When you return to your ex, your appropriate reactions will have been greatly reduced due to your state of mind. If this doesn't work, seek professional counseling or advice.
The most important thing is not to let your emotions get the better of you. When you are in love, you are so much in love with your partner that sometimes anger can easily take the place of being passionate and sincere. It's important that you remember who you are in these situations. You are still beautiful, valuable, lovable and you should treat each other with kindness.
If, for some reason, you still decide to be angry, you have to learn how to handle yourself. You cannot hide your anger inside your heart or hope that your partner will understand. If they do not, you are better off separating from them completely. Your relationship will only get worse if you remain angry.
It's OK to say that you had a mistake or two in your relationship. No one is perfect. If you discover that you have been acting in a way that you regret, try to apologize. It doesn't matter how big or small the mistake was. The important thing is that you are apologetic and you're willing to work on it. Holding grudges will only make you resentful and that will definitely not help improve your relationship.
If you find yourself in a situation in which you must hold grudges against someone in your life, you must do it in a manner that will help improve the relationship. For instance, never tell your partner that you don't see the point in making complaints. You must be positive in your approach to complaining. Complaining only makes you feel bad and defensive and this is definitely not a good thing when you are trying to repair your relationship. Hold onto those grudges that you can work on instead of throwing them away because they are not helping your relationship.