Lately, I have been reflecting on my life, and giving serious thought to my future, by future I mean how my career and my family would look like.
I have been all smiles for the past few weeks, lately, I’ve been hearing so many beautiful stories of people's marriages and you can see the smile on their faces while they recount their love stories, watching and listening to them makes me feel giddy, because honestly it is amazing. It’s amazing because the rate at which divorce is increasing these days is alarming, how do you explain how a couple got married in April and separates in July? I mean these people freaking said their vows in front of people that were important to them.
The marriage institution is slowly becoming a joke as one can go into it haphazardly and get out of it immediately.
The number of broken marriages I have seen in my short time on earth outnumbers the number of beautiful homes that I have seen and I am worried sick, worried because I do not want to marry the wrong person and divorce eventually, I am worried because I do not want to be a single mother who always has to explain to her kids why and where their father ran off to and I am also worried because marriage is not like the normal boyfriend and girlfriend relationship where you can wake up one morning and decide you are not gonna do it anymore or send a text message stating that it is over. Marriage is way more than that and when kids are involved it becomes a different ball game.
I love this institution called marriage, I love the idea of doing forever with someone’s son, the companionship, the being there for each other, and, the building of a home together, I freaking love every damn thing that comes with the whole "marriage package", I’m willing to go for it and give it my best shot.
I get it that marriage isn’t only having a knight in shining armor coming to rescue a damsel in distress neither is it a fairytale, I know there are so many challenges one faces on the course of the journey, and sometimes the bond might get weaker, other times it might get sour but it takes so much to keep going.
For someone like me who gets easily tired of people who are constantly in my space, I am so worried that I might get weary of this person who is going to constantly be in my space, not for a few weeks or months but for years.
I know my whole life is going to change automatically but would I be able to change without making gigantic mistakes on the way? Will I be able to adapt seamlessly without creating havoc in my home? These and many more are the types of questions I always ask myself.
When I see any wedding video or engagement video I get overly excited, I could watch the video over and over again and continue to grin from ear to ear, and at the moment of watching the video I’m like “One more person has chosen to believe in marriage and love” and it’s an addition to the number of people who believe that love and forever is beautiful.
I love this institution called marriage where you get admitted into, no matter the different types of courses or levels that you get to, you never graduate, you keep bagging and bagging different degrees but you’re stuck in there for life.
Since this institution is multidimensional, people who are unable to stick around for long drop out and that’s why we have so many broken homes, Most children who are products of these broken homes turn out to be something else and most of them end up not believing in love as they never experienced such while growing up.
I stand with the 30% of the world population that believes in the marriage institution.
I want to grow old with my partner, tour around the world with this person, do everything on my bucket list, and have my “mini-me's” and his running around the house but I pray I get to marry the right person and my fears don’t ruin anything.
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