Can we talk about losing our friends to relocation to other countries?
Growing up the plan was to become successful, live the good life, have our friends around, and create bonds with our friends and their families and their children pick up from where we stop but right now it sort of looks like these special friends of ours are scattered in different places.
We can't even see them whenever we want, we can’t talk to them whenever we want, we can’t spend time with them as much as we want and we can’t be there for them physically!
I woke up this morning feeling nostalgic, I just realized that I miss my friends especially those who have left the country. I thought about how they all left the country, some left a few years ago and others a few months ago and I was so sad. I wish them well but I still cannot control the way I feel sometimes about their absence.
I can stand having my friends in different cities in my country because I know one way or another we can always see but you see when they are far away in different countries, with different time zones I just can't help it!
Now we all are stuck with multiple calls and video calls. I can't see my friends whenever I want to, I can't show up at their doorstep to surprise them, I can't attend their weddings and I can't even hug them whenever they need to be hugged. It's so painful that I can only be with them virtually but that’s life for you, right? ”20 children do not play together for 20 years”
Most of them are far away from home with no family or friends, they only have themselves and it sometimes can be hard even if they don’t say it. It can be pretty hard to start all over and to also find your footing in a foreign land, you just can't run back home whenever you want to, you just have to be strong.
It hurts badly that I just might not see these precious friends of mine until we all leave the surface of the earth. All I have of them right now are the memories we shared and pictures we took back then when they were around.
In the last three months, four of my friends relocated. Some went to further their educations and others for work purposes.
I visited the city I grew up in only to discover that most people I knew had either left the city to another city or to another country.
I know how hard the country is and the need for people to go in search of greener pastures but how much more departures can this heart of mine take? I hope I don't wake up one morning and find out I'm the only one left here 😂😂.
I wish my friends the very best in all their endeavors and I pray they are all happy wherever they are.
Since I do not have the financial capabilities to go see them whenever I want, I’d have to get used to being stuck virtually with them and hopeful just one day we all can be reunited again, fingers crossed😃
If there's one thing I have learnt from all of these is to live peaceably with everyone as you never can tell when next you'd have them around.
So this is me just thinking out loud and writing about how I feel about my friends in diaspora and saving this on the blockchain.
What about you, are you losing your friends to relocations, especially out of the country? How do you feel knowing you are miles and miles away from your favourite people, I'll like to read your thoughts in the comment section.
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