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First question
What belief do you have about sex :
I feel we are entitled to our own beliefs and this part of this part of the world religion is one of our major aims .But personally i feel if your able to weigh the advantages and disadvantages anyone the works for you i am not against it.
Firstly according to our christain believe, abstinence from sex is a better option because it gives you a different pride on it's own . we have this believe that having sex we create a bond with this person and we share the spirit the person slept with too .
Having sex without marriage is fornication and God is against it.Sex can lead to many other sins ,one way or the other you may get pregnant from it which leads to abortion which leads to killing the baby especially when you don't find out at the early stage.Most of them especially when there's no money to get a proper abortion and check up get to be killed or have damaged wombs ,or if you get to keep the baby your barely able to fend for baby and yourself.
In part of the world almost everyone is struggling or facing one stuff or the other ,if you decide to keep the baby the father either denies you telling you his not taking part in anything that has to do with the baby,you get stucked as the girl, probably quiet school cause of the stress that comes with pregnancy, the society,your parents now sees you differently, the whole love now dies cause his feeling frustrated and doesn't want to accept it.So you either go through the local way of abortion which may lead to different consequences so you pick one to face one way or the other .
Being pregnant in marriage in this part of the world hits differently,your mom takes care of you,treats you like a princess be your bed side, if unfortunately the guy is not there she won't talk much knowing your married.And i just feel giving that part of you up is to be with someone you trust not just any random person especially the ladies.
But growing up i had a different story to tell,which i had thought differently is not like i regret the moment i don't,just had this cycle of friends and we believed in living in the moment mostly,that some days will never come back again so we just had to cruise around ,we believed in being pleased and be please ,we had this mentality that's it was better to satisfy your self with a man than touching yourself.
So i gave up my virginity to the person i thought would last forever in my life,i had my good moments too and the bad, But we broke up and the rest of it the intimacy still stayed which was what i didn't really like about it .I had most of the earthly believe mostly then .But now i still feel i you have sex without marriage and your not that intimate with a person then fine ,i don't think i could be in a relationship with someone that way again because of my emotional life.Just make sure your sex is protected and if is not your ready to face the consequences.
But i don't think if i was given a choice again i would have chosen otherwise ,it helped know what i loved sexually,how to be please and be pleased.so on earthly believes i don't really condemn sex before marriage if you can handle it ,cause you also need it in your relationship most times.I will just say you should do what you feel you can handle.
Second topic:what are your beliefs about relationship
I have alot of belief concerning relationship ,
Personally i think when your being in a relationship,it should be with a person older than you .There is this respect i feel the male gender should be given mostly,you may feel that respect is not needed if the male gender is younger or same age group .So to me you need someone older in a relationship because the may help you see things maturely,overlook some of your childish characters if you have one.
Relationship is built on many things love ,sex,money, respect and other stuff though one or two things may be lacking cause we can't have everything we want you have to see through their flaws .When it comes to love in a relationship i believe one person gets to love the other even if it's a little bit more than the other it's reduces misunderstanding.Being in a relationship there's no point having a best friend,cause your partner is meant to be everything to you,your best friend and all of it .You need him to lean on when your in troblue,talking your problems out with it instead of telling someone else and the just feel up your mind with what the feel is best for you,if you love tell him when his wrong ,let him be all you need or your not ready to be in a relationship.
Not being controlling is necessary even though you feel what the person is doing is less right ,try making them see things the way you do ,weigh your options with theirs but if they insist on theirs then fine everyone is entitled to their opinions you shouldn't belittle them for it rather encourage them.Not also being too overprotective,wanting them to yourself everytime barley allowing them to spend time with their friends,if it's their choice to be around you always fine,but if it isn't that shouldn't make you feel your not needed or loved people have their different way to do things.Most times give them space to need you is necessary.
Before going into a relationship or being with a person make sure personally your a happy person that this person adds to your happiness.Let your partner not be the overall reason your happy involve yourself to things that make you happy still just incase things goes otherwise and if it does don't believe you cannot cope without being in a relationship you can be happy trust me.
Also relationship isn't really all about the sex ,that's where money comes in most times take your partner on a date,get them nice gifts on their birthday gifts to be remembered not having the mentality that your going to have sex the whole day that's not necessary. You can take your partners out for a sit out,to clubs if you love loud places and musics,to cinema for movies, Believe me i don't think relationship is al about sex there's more to that when there is money.
It's good to be yourself when your in a relationship pretending to be who your not is literally not necessary,is just going to make you feel uncomfortable,show your good sides ,bad sides all the part of you can show to make sure your partner is okay with your flaws.
Lastly i belief your relationship should make you happy not mentally depressed,the person should know your worth,trust them ,remember you can't change people and don't imagine them to be who their not rather accept them .Remember life has it's ups and down so would your relationship the way your handle the situation is the one that matters .
Third question:Tell us about those myths or taboos you have heard about sexuality and how they have been a part of you
In the part of the world where i grew up they were many myths and taboos we heard or let me say i was told.I heard of about three myths
1)Having sex reduces you retentive memory made you remember less.
2)Among my peers the were discussions like if a guy doesn't bring you to orgasm then his not a guy.
3)Using your clit for pleasure enlarges it.
So i am going to talk about how the affected me or how the were part of me cause i got rid of those thoughts long ago.
Most times when i had sex instead of focusing on the pleasure and being in the moment i kept memorizing what i read some days ago just to make sure i don't forget them.it was real bad that most people i had sex with never knew if i was pleased or not cause i barely reacted to what their doing,my mind mostly was on what i read the last time.Many guys literally didn't want to meet up with the the next time and all of that,so i had to get on a therapy session to talk about it which really helped me.
The second belief i had or heard was if a guy didn't get you to orgasm than he couldn't do well in bed.I barely leaned into the pleasure that came from the guyy i was focused on the ending point.If you couldn't get me to orgasm i felt you really did a bad job ,but mostly the fault was from me i wasn't really into the pleasuring or should i say i wasn't flowing with it which as necessary,so my partner talked me out of that most of the times so i had to focus on the pleasure not my mind roaming and expecting and orgasm.
Also being pleasured using your clit would make it enlarge,i got scared that if it was touched it won't fit into my labia majora anymore i won't be able to close my legs,some times i did measure the size before and after then i found out it was all a lie.
Growing up in this part of the world is a bit frustrating cause our parents will say anything just to make sure you say clean,though most of us still end of on the other side .Wheni think back to those days i which i could have enjoyed myself more not not being worried about one thing or the other.
It was and interesting topic to write on and my first time of being here ,thank you love and sexuality for giving me this moment to express this aspect of my life,I will love to invite 
