I always talk about ways on how to identify toxic people.
But we are going to delve a little bit deeper today.
Today we are going to make you consider:
Are YOU toxic?
This is one of the most difficult questions to ask ourselves because our ego blinds us from the answer.
Our ego analyzes life thru our intentions & others based off their behavior.
But often, those intentions seem right to US, but not others.
People who you consider toxic do not consider themselves toxic.
'How do you know?'
Because I am speaking form experience.
During 2012, I had a very good side & a very dark side to me.
Good side was that I was becoming a better student (I struggled with tests my entire life) & making smarter academic decisions.
But the dark side to me was that I had anger issues.
So my logical side was in tact & my emotions were out of whack.
My logical side began to dominate me.
My ego began to paint the ILLUSION that others should behave the same way as me.
I'd be shocked when I would see others not acting like a good logical boy or girl.
Why was this fellow whining? Nothing logical about that.
Hm..why was that person late? Nothing logical about that.
Same silly mistakes again?? Nothing logical about that.
And seeing others doing what they weren't 'supposed' to be doing would make me mad.
And I'd lecture them, sometimes yell, or put them in their place.
It was only the right thing to do, you know?
I was only doing this because I didn't want them to whine, be late, or make so many silly mistakes.
My intentions were right.
But what began to happen was that people were afraid to make mistakes around me.
They were afraid because they thought they would be scolded.
This led them to walking on eggshells.
Results?
My friends either distanced from me or cut me off completely..
At first, I thought it was their loss & knew I could always get some new friends.
But eventually, it came to a point where my family members couldn't be themselves around me either.
At that point, I came to realize that I was the toxic one.
It's been a few years since those toxic days, but I came back with one major insight.
Toxic people often have NO clue that they are being toxic.
I was behaving the way that I was because I genuinely loved the people I would scold.
Otherwise, I would keep letting them make mistakes.
But despite my intention being right, it was harming their ego.
And when you harm someone's ego, you WILL be viewed as toxic.
Always approach humans with an emotional eye, not a logical one.
Or you will make the same mistakes that I did.
Are you toxic?
I don't know.
But you may.....
You just need to stop viewing everything thru your intentions for a second & see how you are being perceived.
You may be making socially unintelligent moves & not even know it!
Be aware & approach the situation with humility.
Tell the truth even when it's killing you to do so.
And only then, can you foster the relationships you have been meaning to all along.
Charismatic people aren't toxic & toxic people aren't charismatic.
Check yourself before you fall too deep within the social black hole.
Till tomorrow.
Hustle Hacker 💲 💲 💲
