Parenting is one job that is not easy and it's just funny when some two individuals become so careless to the point when they just have no other option but to bring a child and some other cases, children to the world. When this happens, so many mistakes are bound to be made but then in all, a parent is always going to be a parent. They have to guide those little ones that they've been blessed with.
They have to love, nurture, correct and do so many other things for them just to make sure they live life the best way they should. In the process of looking out for us, our parents make decisions for us which most times are decisions they've never had to make before. Our parents become rational and sometimes irrational thinkers all because of us just so they can make better choices and decisions for us.
Lucky me, I do have parents that love my siblings and I so much that they don't mind to an extent going out of their way to give us the best they can offer and I so much love them for that. As parents, they always see every decision they make for their families as the best and so most times we as the children don't really have any choice but to just see reasons with them. Sometimes, these decisions might be right and some other times they might be wrong but all that depends on the angle we look at it from.
My parents have made just one decision that I see as both right and wrong looking at it from different perspectives. About 20 years ago, my both parents got separated due to reasons that I'm still yet to know of. Somehow, we ended up with my dad after this separation and I think I'm happy about that because if that didn't happen, by now I won't even be here writing this post. I think it's a blessing in disguise that when my parents separated we ended up with my dad.
Having my siblings by my side is a blessing that I'm forever going to be grateful for because I do know of parents that separated and the children too got separated from each other. Ever since my mom left, I always thought she was wicked and unthoughtful about my siblings and I but then now that I'm grown, I've come to realize that she leaving my siblings and I together was just the best decision for us. I doubt if things would have been more better than it is now that I'm with them.
But then, even as this decision feels like the best decision, I also don't think it was the best decision for my parents to choose never to be together again. This has affected us to some extent and even worse but then I'm glad that God has always been with us through all these years. In fact, if you are not told, you won't guess that I don't or I didn't live with both of my parents. So yes, I think the fact that my parents are not together, was both a good decision and also a bad decision.
In the end, they are humans and they make decisions that they think would be the best for either themselves or for others and in the end, God just keeps working things out for our own good and I'm really grateful and I do love them still. Where I am now might not be the best place I could have been but then it isn't the worst either.
This is my response to the Hivelearners Weekly topic and I'm so glad to have you stop by.
