A usual night at home
The evening started quite usual. At home, with my laptop on my lap. A little chat with some friends. Wear comfortable clothes and the TV in the background as a distraction. My phone within reach because I could be called at any moment. My mother was in the nursing home, and we knew it was slowly coming to an end. You can imagine I wasn't busy finding love. I was busier with the worries I had every day for my mother and my life was filled with driving back and forth from home to the nursing home. Doing all the little things together with and for my mother that I could still do. Bake a cake at home, then pick up my sister's dog and then drive with him to the nursing home and drink tea with my mother in the 'living room' of the nursing home. Enjoying the cake I baked for her. Not exactly the life you dream of when you are still young, and have yet to build your own life. But as is so often the case, that is not looked at, and we have to make do with how we get it.
So after another day in the nursing home, I was not prepared for what was going to happen that evening when I hung out on the couch in my comfortable clothes. I had then created a profile on one of the predecessors of Facebook and through there I sometimes chatted with other people there. That evening, my attention got caught by a man who very politely asked if he could send me a private message. I was totally unprepared for him to want a date with me that same night. It was 9 pm, I was planning on going to bed early, and suddenly there was a fairly smooth-mouthed man who wanted a date with me.
Curious, I asked him what date he had in mind, determined to say “NO” anyway. He asked me what I would like, and I told him honestly that all I really wanted to do was chat and go to bed early. Whereupon he inquired with interest what the reason was. Somewhat hesitantly, I explained what the situation with my mother was at the time. I was surprised he wasn't put off by this. On the contrary, he sympathized with me and told me that I too had a right to a life… and that I just had to be pampered once in a while. After which he asked me if he could do that.
Now I was really stimulated and asked him how he thought he could do that. After all, I didn't even know him, and I didn't even know if I would want to change that. He suggested coming to me the next day in the evening, so we could get to know each other. Hesitantly I agreed. I wasn't convinced yet, but oh well, drinking coffee together wouldn't hurt either, I decided.
The next evening, I put on somewhat more representative clothes, lol. Even though I wasn't thinking about building a relationship at all, I still wanted to make a good impression, and yes, of course I was a bit nervous. When he parked his car in front of my house and got out, I saw a man who liked me. Neatly maintained, and attractive. A friendly appearance, and as it turned out, very spontaneous. Not at all reserved or shy, on the contrary. We clicked from the first minute, and after only 10 minutes I knew I wanted to see him again. He was able to make me forget the whole situation with my mother. Instead of worry, I felt joy. And instead of a daughter to take care of her mother, I felt like a sexy woman again. I may not have known I was missing something, but he knew exactly what I needed. And before he went, he wanted to make sure I could arrange to come to him that Saturday evening. All I had to do was put on nice clothes and bring a good mood. He would take care of the rest!
The next day, I arranged with my sister that I would not go to my mother's that Saturday evening, but would do so during the day. If my mother her condition would seriously change, the date would be canceled. Luckily that didn't happen, and my date was able to go on!
On Saturday, during the day, I got a text message from him with an address in it and the time when he expected me there. It wasn't right next door, but I was so much looking forward to it. And yes, I found it very exciting. After all, I had only seen him once before, and then it clicked very well. But would that still be the case on a second date? The hours couldn't go by fast enough, and at the same time, the hours flew by way too fast!
What do you do if you want to prepare yourself for an exciting date? Well, for starters, take a nice bath. Then the big dilemma started, because what to wear? Nice clothes, uhm yes, but how did I know after seeing him only once what he would like? I had an idea what it could be, but certainty? No, not at all! And on top of that, I didn't know what we were going to do. In the end, I made a choice, consisting of a combination of sporty and sexy, while keeping in mind that I would go back at night. So a jacket was not an unnecessary luxury. After all, it was only April, and a pleasant temperature during the day, but the nights were still cool!
I've always had a thing for black, and finally I decided to put on a black mini skirt, a bright pink shirt, a black blazer and my black boots with high wedges. I chose the high wedges because I assumed that if I still had to walk, I could easily do that on those wedges. A walk is a bit more difficult in stiletto heels. And how glad I was later that I had opted for wedges!
After I had driven for about an hour and a half and arrived at the address I had received via text message, I quickly saw what the intention was. I had deliberately not searched the internet for that address, because I wanted to be surprised, and it was certainly a surprise. I had ended up at a large marina. Even before I parked my car I saw my date, he was waiting for me at the entrance of the marina. Together we walked to a beautiful motor yacht. And as we walked down the jetty to that motor yacht, he told me we would have dinner together first, and then his best friend would come and take us out for a ride. He also had his own sailing license, and his own sailing boat, but it was not so luxurious. That's why he asked if he could use his best friend's boat. And he fully agreed, for the later boat trip he would also bring his own girlfriend.
The atmosphere was great, my date had placed candles and mood lighting everywhere, soft music played in the background and since the kitchen in this boat was also in tip-top order, cooking was no problem at all. Especially not when you consider that he only had to heat this up because he had the food delivered by a catering company earlier. It still clicked just as well, I felt great under his admiring looks. And when later his best friend arrived with his girlfriend, that also clicked very well. We had a great cruise on the IJsselmeer, and it was well into the night before I finally got back in my car to drive back home.
The atmosphere, the ambiance, the music, the attention, the environment, everything contributed to an unforgettable moment in my life. And I will always be grateful to him for that. During that difficult period in my life, he was the only one who had an eye for my needs. The only one who ensured that in addition to worry and stress, I also got around to relaxation and 'being a woman'. And this date will always come first when it comes to dates that I will never forget… there have been plenty of dates before and after this date that were also special.
