I have had problem sleeping for years, until recently. If you suffer from this you know how debilitating it could be, to go through your life in a state of semi sleep deprivation. I have tried everything from counting sheep to meditation, teas, weed etc.
All proven to be inefficient and the symptoms war getting slightly worse over the year. I guess you could look at it as me not treating the underlying problem that was stressing me and make my mind race and stress myself unnecessarily at the time when i was suppose to get some rest and sleep, the problem with this wive is that there is always something to stress about if you really want this is an infinite cycle.
Not to say that you shouldn't address the underlining problems, and tackling your problems will give you stress relief but only for a while until the next set of problems are going to come in your life. If the fact that you can't sleep because you have certain problem in your life then nobody should be able to sleep, because everybody has problems. You might think like i did for a long period of time that what was keeping me awake when i should sleep, is the fact that my problem are worse then others so i am more stressed then they are.
Stress is a subjective experience, people perceive things different some people barley flinch to things that others would have a life crisis over. So is not so much the severity of your problem as much as it is your resilience to your stress.
You have very little control over external factors other than yourself and even the control you have over yourself is limited. The way you master your life is through finding a certain degree of balance rather then control. If by the time is night fall and you are still wired and stressed and have problem falling asleep there is very little you can do about that, i found that it is better to just ride that wave.
It is in finding that balance between escaping completely from your stress through dissociation and confronting that emotion. If you attempt to go to bed while you are still stressed then the pain becomes unbearable relatively quickly and you are either going to stay there being stressed and not fall asleep for a long period of time, or you are going to get up and do something else instead of sleep or rest. Finding a way to control your pain, moving between experiencing your pain and having a safe place to retreat in to, if the pain becomes too much, it will eventually allow you to relax enough to be able to fall asleep. This is more like a interval training rather than a marathon or an endurance race.
