The sense of annoyance is overwhelming and does not allow you to enjoy life. But it is possible to overcome this state by understanding its essence.
Anger occurs when the actions of your loved ones do not coincide with your expectations. They are vain delusions:
-You expect the loved one to figure out your needs and satisfy them without your asking for it.
-You expect the husband to remember when an event takes place in the child's kindergarten and get involved, but he forgets.
-You expect parents to help with raising your baby, but they refuse.
-You expect your girlfriend to listen to you, but she's busy.
There are still a multitude of such examples. In each of them there is hope, which is followed by a disappointment.
People who are upsetting people around the world believe they naturally deserve a good attitude. I think the people around you are bound to do some things.
The husband needs to get you coffee in bed.
The kids must listen to you.
-Friends need to help you in difficult times.
-The unconditional parents have to support you.
You upset yourself personally. Do not expect another person to offer you something. If you want something, act independently.
There is a parable explaining the statement outlined above.
Once the disciple asks his spiritual mentor:
-Master, you're the wisest person I know. In any case, you remain extremely calm. You never get angry with anyone. What is your secret?
-I will teach you. For this, bring me a bag and some potatoes.
The disciple fulfilled the instructions.
-When you're upset, write your name on the potato and put it in the bag.
-And so?
-Not. This bag must always be with you. Every time you're upset, add another potato.
After a while, the bag began to get harder and the potatoes began to rot. Then the disciple came to his mentor and said,
-This happens to your soul. Once the annoyances become too much, you can not "carry" them anymore.
The feeling of annoyance must not turn into a habit. Learn to control and detach him.
