Dear friends, today's phrase is like a hook that digs into the heart and even Steven Hayes made an excellent metaphor based on this theme. He explains in his metaphor that when they hurt you they put a hook in your heart and the pain is extremely great, but bigger, but not more than spite. I explain to you, The rancor makes you feel an immense desire that the person who hurt you lives this same pain or even worse, and you do not manage to rest until the revenge ends.
But something happens, you want the person to be hurt with the same hook, but you do not realize that you have the hook still embedded, the rancor leads you to want revenge every night, the hook pressing! You lose the peace and the opportunities to start again, you seal your heart to love, warmth, hope, you feel bitter and many times you prefer to die.
Reflect, as Haya says, first get the hook out of your heart because if the person who hurt you is hurt with the same hook you would stay between him and the tip of the hook that means you cannot get out because he is in the middle enslaving you to the same destination.
I know that it is not easy to forgive, but keeping a grudge hurts you more since all the loved ones, friends and close friends who have nothing to do with that wound will suffer the consequences. Sorry, sorry, sorry ... it seems to be a difficult word but you will surely feel free when you do it and many doors will open for you.
Proverbs 17: 9 says "He who insists on rancor divides friends"
