It Is Okay To Ask For Help

I saw a thread by @ibbtammy some days ago, I just smiled and said she is referring to you. Yes, me. She simply said it is okay to ask for help.

Some many times I resolved to learn how to depend on others even if it is just for little but my brain is weird in such a way that it only thought of figuring out things by itself at first instance of running into difficulty.

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My brain will keep on signaling me that oh, everyone is going through some shit, you shouldn't bother them. You should figure your own shit out.

As much as I love this part of me, as it makes strong and unbreakable but sometimes it can be overwhelming
, lonely and tough. Each time I do this. I will promise myself that oh, next time I will ask for help but then I hardly even remember to ask until I sort myself out.

Just this morning I was angry with mom for not informing me of her not feeling too well despite the fact that we do speak every single day only for my elder sister who visited her today to call me and let me know of her condition.

I told her many times to always let us know if anything is happening to her but she always feels that she doesn't want to bother us much. I get it, she knows how worried I can get if she opens up but she still supposes to tell me or my elder siblings.

I knew many years ago that I got this from her. She is strong and always capable of finding her way out of anything but sometimes it is just the best to ask for help.

I'm that type that will go any length to help those I care about. I just need to perceive they are in need and then I will take it all upon myself to help. But when I'm in need I just find it so hard to ask. Until I figure a way out.

I'm not talking about overly depending on others to solve my problems, but letting someone in a little sometimes can make a great positive difference.

If I can find a way to balance this, my life can be a lot better and easier to live. It could save me so much time figuring things out.
I won't get to bury myself in some of my life challenges, and I can worry less.

Where I came from, I can't just afford to not be strong, so many people depending on my strength that I can't let down but then I still need to learn how to lean on someone sometimes.

I have this written on my note pad somewhere, 'it is okay to ask for help' as a reminder, just so I can remember to ask when things get really difficult but the funniest thing is I never remember to check.

How do I go from this narrow part to someone who knows when to ask for help? I'm still figuring it out. And I badly need to, not just for me but for my little boy. I wouldn't want him to take this after me.

When I see people asking for help, I mean not people that go about like the whole world owns them. People that genuinely need help. I admire their courage for asking and in such a position, I'm always so happy if I can help.

Asking for help is one of the bravest things we can do. In a world where a lot of people will only mock you for your predicament, asking for help anyways takes courage.

But then that doesn't mean we shouldn't ask, we have to seek help when things get tough for us. Like the old adage says, a problem shared is half solved

My next-door neighbor did something very admirable just three weeks after we moved in here. She was pregnant when we arrived and due to her doctor's advice she was on bed rest at home. She barely came out so we never got to relate that much and only said hello to each other on a few occasions.

But I was surprised when she requested I help bathe her newborn on the day she was discharged from hospital.

She went through surgery for her delivery and also, she told me she couldn't handle a newborn. If I were in her shoes I don't care about my condition I would have had to figure it out somehow. Even if I end up very exhausted, I don't mind instead of trusting someone I barely know.

But she found it so easy to ask and I was honored and very happy to help her out.

I admire this trait in her and hope that someday I come close to doing things like that.

I'm learning, to see that asking for help is not a sign of weakness but rather a courageous and wise act, to lean on others around us because somehow, some days we all need help.