Women have been brainwashed by the destructive female culture that taught them to associate money with sin, evil and everything crude, that it would take an entire lifetime to disentangle the subconscious fears and incredible fantasies that simple noun ‘money’ evokes in most women.
The society and culture of today have groomed many women into believing that Money is "Power" and most women are not supposed to be powerful…rather taught to be ‘nice’.
Society has told us that since we are nurturers, helpers and accommodators in the society, we don’t have to acquire information, facts and knowledge on how to make money. If you have to, just get enough for your kids and get by. You should rather marry a man who knows all the financial keys and knows how to invest.
While this is good and alright, it tends to curtail and restrain women from believing for bigger things and having bigger dreams. We are told by culture not to have any financial vision afterall we were made helpmeets.
We have been told we should not be taught not to seek for ways to become rich because we are not supposed to be breadwinners. Isn’t that the sole reason why God created Eve?
We have been told that we are women…and so as a woman, we are supposed to spend our income on our household and kids, hence there is no use bothering about becoming rich.
By been ‘rich’, I mean been able to live beyond your financial constraints. We have been held back with the belief that makes us reluctant to ask for salary increase or monetary pecks because we are not sure if we deserve it or not.
While a man would use money to prepare for the future, a woman would use money to create the present that she desires to impress the people who don’t care about her.
Hence, a woman is more likely only taught to learn how to save; most men are taught not just how to save but how to invest as well. Hence, a woman would only want to be fair during trying financial times in her workplace, a man on the other hand would advocate for himself during trying financial times in his workplace.
Men take investments risks, the woman cares less about investing - with few exceptions .
A man would buy what he needs; a woman would buy what she wants. And that part that rings so loud to a woman ears, she is only to save ‘just in case’ she has to takecare of her kids and herself. A man on the other hand is taught to save, invest and make his money grow.
I don’t know about you, but I am just tired of all the books and teachings that teaches a woman on how to build a home and all the ways to please a hubby with less on how to make money and become rich, on how to build a business or how to acquire the kind of money that can make all your dreams come true.
I have read enough books on Family and Relationships and how to build a good home, I crave and desire for something different. I am tired of living the status quo, expecting to just save only a half or less than what I receive monthly. I am
tired of boasting in my ability to save which I thought is just not good enough, what’s wrong with learning how and where to invest? The society tells us it’s easy to marry a rich man as it is to marry a poor dude but never teaches us the skills to become financial independent as women.
A female friend shared her story of been raised a typical girl. She spent more than half of her teens and adult life believing that doing good and doing well were mutually exclusive. She said in her words, 'when her older brothers and younger
brother were encouraged to pursue Masters Degree and Doctorate Degrees, she was encouraged to go into a helping field- preferably teaching so that I would have time for my children and family, which isn’t bad', she added, 'but my parents offered to sponsor my Brothers degrees while I was left to allow my hubby do so, should I decide I even want to. It is no wonder my brothers became financially wealthy far earlier in age than I did. While they were thinking about making money,I was thinking about doing good'.
I had a similar experience. When some set of people got to find out I was going for my third degree, they asked me why I was that ambitious, afterall, I only needed to marry a rich dude. One of them added that with that kind of degree, I could easily
become stubborn, heady and be termed a bitch. For my friend and other women, doing good and doing well are not mutually exclusive. We can be both if we break loose from societal claws.
The truth is that if you don’t think you can ever be rich and comfortable, you would most likely not be so. You will simply within the status quo, taking only your salary home and living only to get by.
Woman, you have got to think rich and envision a life of wealth. I am a big believer in vision and I don’t see it as magical, rather has platforms that provide me with a focus to achieve the kind of life I desire.
Dare to dream!
I know several people that are okay with an unsatisfying or low paying job because they don’t dare to dream about what could make them happy. You can be more than just working for somebody and hoping to retire some day.
Dream about what you want to do and how you can make plans to achieve them; this would spur you on to take drastic measures to a more financial independent life.
Here is my declaration;
Dear woman, I hope that as you constantly make this declaration, it would spur you to do something beyond the ordinarily so that you can live the life you desire and not be held back by what society demands of you.
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