I find that people think that if someone is claiming to be an "introvert", they are either pretentious or trying to look superior. As if being an introvert is not enough of an inconvenience for us, we have to prove the point-of-view of the general people has about us (which is most of the time wrong) that WE TRULY BELONG TO THE SUPERIOR HUMAN SPECIES.
Why???
One of the major wrong yet precisely established concepts of me is that I am an overly extrovert person. Sometimes, it even made me think twice, is there way it could not be wrong at all?
I believe one of the major conceptions we hold for introverted people is that they are rude. Rude in a sense that they outright avoid people, they do not talk much, they are all gloomy, always lurking in the shadows, like to be left alone and everything like these.
And to some extent this notion became quite famous and people actually try hard to fit in this shell, making hard earned efforts to stick to this unwillful guideline.
And another odd ideology is held that being an introvert is all cool, so people try to fit in desperately even if sometimes it is exhausting. Hence, when someone does not resemble that usual definition of an irrelevantly established ideology of an "introvert", they often slander those individuals for being pretentious. As if, being an introvert is some sort of achievement for them and not fitting into your usual perspective of the definition is very presumptuous of them.
But come on people, why?
This is no fun for us at all I am telling you. We are not any more of a superior being for being an introvert!
Rather, I find extroverts or ambiverts are way more convenient and hold a powerful aura of society, which we are bound to belong to regardless of our desire or not to.
We introverts struggle every bit of this for being an asocial person while being a social being.
Here's some outline for your thoughts to reconstruct. First, introverts are not rude or asocial, they are just limitedly social.
People are not born as being classified as introvert or extrovert, they grow into these categories over time, while adapting into society, family.
Not that they hate people, gatherings, gossiping, laughing, talking with people, they do all these and desire to do that but with a very minimized number of people.
Because most of the time, we are so engrossed with our company that often we hardly ever desire any other external involvement.
Indeed, it is very sweet to have others' company, however, we as a natural are very subtle about sincerity, dedication, efforts one makes and eventually end up finding more flaws than beauty in other peoples' company.
When we are involved with others, we are considerate, sincere, lovely but indeed when we do not get the half of the equal of those desired outcomes, it hurts.
It hurts very deep ladies and gentlemen.
And over time, we start to shut ourselves more into us, making the world narrower than we ever wanted because we cannot help but protect us from all those memories that aggravate us, haunt and taunt us.
We rarely love, but when we do love, we love with our all might.
And when we are hurt, we are hurt for a lifetime.
So, we develop this shell as a preventive measure for protecting us against all those bad memories.
But then again, we live in society, and we are kind, gentle, nice. It is natural, that one will have to be kind towards others, cannot outright avoid or prevent someone from interacting, or be alone always amidst all the people, specially outside your own room, into the workplace, or occasions, or festivals and so on.
How long can we push others, how can we predict, which interaction will not go straight up south, or who will not hurt us?
And then, we learn to actively put up a wall while perfectly socializing with others. We learn to be kind, sweet, and socialize, while always making sure they know there is an unidentifiable invisible wall between us, and that entry is to a limited zone.
So people, we can also be nice, act like a social butterfly, but trust heaven me, we are anxious as hell behind the mask, stressed over the conversation every second, evermore planning in the light speed to escape from whatever interaction we are having.
We may look like we are enjoying the interaction and calm, but deep down we are always formulating a plan to escape in our alone or comfort zone.
Hence, do not think, people like us do not enjoy a conversation, gatherings, occasions, or celebrations.
We very much do but within our comfort zone.
We can be the most eloquent social butterfly, we can be the centre of attention, cheerleaders of the party, but the people and place matters, and that is all there is.
And we do not ever think being an introvert is something to brag or feel superior human being for that. Rather, it is an extreme inconvenience we have to deal EVERYDAY, which precisely is exhausting, energy draining.
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