It is not an easy way to respect someone's privacy and also care at the same time, setting a boundary means never intruding in their privacy and I am someone who loves to stay in my lane when things like this surface but we can never neglect them no matter what because they need our care, support, and presence in their life.
I have people around me who always behave this way and what I do most is COMMUNICATE, no matter the case maybe we can still communicate, this modern age has made everything easier if I can not communicate directly by calling, I can message them through normal text message or leave a message for them on any of their social media handles, this doesn't mean I am invading their privacy but to know how they are coping with life, I do this at least twice in a month rather than choking them with my messages or calls.
My second point is always to SUPPORT them, I have never seen anyone who will reject being supported if it is coming from a pure heart, we all know how everything is now, so always render to help and not be demanding from them, your call can make someone happy while some calls can be worrisome, some people are born to be demanding from others without knowing what the person is going through but I always see myself as a helping tool that attracts the person I care for rather than being a burden, I always offer to help in other to make them happy than being the source of their sadness and never invade their privacy by doing so.
My other way to care for my loved ones without invading their privacy is NEVER TO PRY OR PRESSURE THEM:- in a situation like this, I love to respect people's decisions, and I believe if you want to talk to me you will freely do it, not by forcing you to talk, I will never push information out of you in other to respect your decision and never to intrude your privacy. Even if you don't agree with their decisions, it's important to respect their right to make their own choices. Accept that they may not always share everything with you, and strive to be supportive regardless.
Another thing I love to do is to study the person and BE ATTENTIVE TO THEIR BEHAVIORS:- When discussing personal issues, I do pay close attention to their body language, tone of voice, and spoken indications, the way they respond to me. If they appear uncomfortable or closed off, then I always back off and give them space. I learned this strategy from my brother, most times he just wants to be alone without saying a word maybe he had a bad day, he is someone who loves his privacy and also doesn't talk to someone about his problems, I love to give him his space but whenever he is calm, he will come around and share his problem willingly without forcing him to talk.
Dealing with this type of person can be so stressful, I have a friend who will never talk to you about his problem but wants you to keep on asking, whenever I sense a tone of stress in his voice ask him what the matter is, he will reply me nothing but when I moved away from that conversation since he said he is fine, that will lead to another problem telling me that why can't I force him to talk since I call myself his friend. This leads to the breaking of our relationship because I can be babysitting an adult who can't open his mouth to talk and always expects me to console him with sweet words.
This is my entry for this week's episode of hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w119e3 which the topic is HOW PRIVATE SHOULD YOU BE
