Mindful Moments: Perfecting The Pause - Chapter Two (for Beta-Readers)

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For those of you who weren’t aware, I made this announcement a month ago about my new book.

In That Original Post I Explained..

Over the next few months, I’ll be rereading all of the post comments, enhancing the posts, and crafting them into the final chapters. When these chapters are complete I’ll have an open call for beta-readers on Hive to read the manuscript and offer feedback.

What Is A Beta-Reader? (from Wikipedia)

Beta Reader: a test reader of an unreleased work of literature or other writing (similar to beta testing in software), who gives feedback from the point of view of an average reader to the author. A beta reader is not a professional and can therefore provide advice and comments in the opinions of an average reader. This feedback is used by the writer to fix remaining issues with plot, pacing, and consistency. The beta reader also serves as a sounding board to see if the book has had the intended emotional impact.

The Process Of Writing Mindful Moments

This book project has been like no other one I’ve ever worked on. First, it’s taken way longer to write than a book written in the traditional way. Secondly, it’s been so much more enjoyable to let the ideas for the chapters naturally bubble up into my imagination.

The first goal of this second chapter is to get the reader thinking about any fears that might be holding them back from achieving their true potential in life. Secondly, my wish is to allow the reader to become more comfortable with systematically challenging those fears. This is something I struggled greatly with when I was younger. These worries and fears inhibit you from living your best life in nearly every way imaginable.

I thank you in advance for your notes and feedback in the comments below. It'll be very valuable to me and help to create a book which, hopefully, helps lots of people improve their lives for many years to come.

Chapter Two ~ Worry & Fear

When I was in my late teens and early twenties I feared almost everything. It took me decades of struggle and countless self-help books, which only offered a temporary solution. I continued in my search for a tool to heal until I found the only thing that really helped, meditation.

I often wonder what my life would be like today If I hadn't begun a meditation practice. My best guess is I would have continued to take the "safe route" or the path of least resistance. It's very likely I'd still be working the same warehouse job I started after high school. The company I worked for regularly reminded us we were expendable and paid us just enough to keep us there.

I drove a forklift and heaved eighty pound boxes onto a conveyor belt for eight to ten hours a day. My writing was limited to whatever spare time I had left, which was very little. While I was lifting those boxes I would often daydream about winning the lottery and living the life I always wished for.

The problem with the younger me was I was being too passive and reactive. I was letting life events and those people around me dictate and define what my life should be. Instead, I should have been more proactive, making an actionable plan, and beginning my own individual journey to success and personal evolution. The moment I realized how empowering it was to step outside of my comfort zone my life began to radically change for the better.

“Persist - Don’t take no for an answer. If you’re happy to sit at your desk and not take risks you’ll be sitting there for the next twenty years.” - David Rubenstein.

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One of the things I've learned from over two decades of meditation practice is fear and, its equally as toxic byproduct, worry are one of the biggest roadblocks to living our best life. If left unchallenged, fear continuously stalks us, nagging at us from the shadows. Unless you stand up to fear it will continue to grow stronger.

In actuality, Fear is - False Evidence Appearing Real.

Fear's influence can make us limit our potential by forcing us to live too cautiously and not take enough risk. It extracts us out of the present moment and into the realm of worry. Most of the time our worries and fears are irrational and unfounded but they can feel as real as life and death. Succumbing to these emotions can drastically limit our personal and professional potential and overall quality of life.

The truth is worry and fear have three things in common. Both of them are bullies, liars, and cowards. Like any bully, they’ll gradually loosen their grip on you each time you stand up to them. The opposite holds true as well, each time you give into them they only get stronger and more oppressive.

“Too many people are thinking of security instead of opportunity. They seem to be more afraid of life than death.” — James F. Byrnes

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We often see successful people and think, “If I could only be as fearless as them, life would be amazing. I could do anything.” I’ll let you in on a secret, everyone experiences fear, some of us just hide it better than others. Always remember, courage isn’t being unafraid, it’s being afraid and doing it anyway.

If you want to truly change your life start to stand up to your fears. Begin by standing up to the smallest of your fears and build your tolerance over time. Once you start seeing results it becomes a very exhilarating addiction.

Meditation

Throughout the course of your day today, pause, and try this simple centering meditation. Begin by sitting upright in a comfortable chair then:

Inhale for a count of 5 (sniff the flower);
Hold the breath for a count of 5;
Exhale for a count of 7 (blow out the candle); and
Repeat for as long as you like (at least 3 repetitions).

Putting Words Into Action

Now open your eyes. After this pause, take a mental inventory of your worries/fears. Zero in on just one of your fears that you feel limits your potential and quality of life. Find a way to stand up to this one fear even if it’s in a seemingly small way.

Keep working on that same fear, standing up to it in some way every day for the next five days. It may even take more than five days, if so, it’s okay. The important thing is to stay focused on it until it’s sufficiently released its grip on you. Once that first fear is slain and laid to rest, just move onto the next fear, and so on.

Once you begin to, systematically, stand up to your fears your life will begin to expand and transform in wonderful ways. Be sure to use the Notes section at the end of this chapter to chart your progress. In no time at all you'll be able to proudly add, “fear slayer” to your resume.

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In Gratitude,

~ Eric Vance Walton ~

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