Have you had the experience that when you give yourself fully to something, commit yourself one hundred percent, this acceptance gives you an extremely good feeling?

When you cook a meal that you put all your creativity and skill into. Or a project that you complete from start to finish? How does it feel to have made a decision and to have it end all procrastination?

Relationships are similar. You don't know their outcome, just as you don't know the outcome of your studies, a project or a menu preparation one thousand percent.

I have had two committed relationships in my life, both of which ended. But they were worth living. The initial euphoria, the fun, the full, plump life are some of the best memories. But the conflicts are part of every relationship and they teach us relationship experience, which we need in order to be seen as a human being with a lived background. We recognise each other when we know that we have faced life and overcome fears. Making mistakes is perfectly normal. To err is part of the school of life.

To use the stylistic device of exaggeration in the form of a question: How attractive would you find a man who, for example, was still a virgin at thirty and who had not yet had a committed relationship?

Baby steps are something for babies, not for adults;) The risk of a relationship is also the gift. If we always knew beforehand what was going to happen, what then?

How would you feel if a man only wanted to approach you with the handbrake on? If he only had one foot in the relationship with you, unsure whether you were "the one"? Do you have to prove it to him? My answer to that is "no". If he can give himself to someone, he also wants your devotion. But there's no guarantee, it's not something you don't know, I would think. Be brave and courageous, a relationship that doesn't last is not the death of you.

I am now married for the second time and I see myself growing old with my husband. It is very fulfilling to take a marriage vow seriously and free yourself from maybe not having made the right decision. There are few things better than having that certainty (without knowing what else the future holds).

Good luck with your life's journey and may you have the children you want.