I can say for myself that every decision I have made out of fear has led to a bad result or to a result that has created new conflicts. Fear has turned out to be my worst advisor. Because people are also intelligent, they sniff out my "good" intention, which, however, does not present itself to them as good, but makes them suspicious because they sense my worry.

Right, I agree that judgements are impulsive and pretending not to have them does not help me.

Language influences such enemy-friend thinking; the medial world thrives on either-or questions that are basically undecidable. Quite rightly, when man is accepted as man's wolf, it is best for me to want to detach myself from it and to withdraw power from the strong symbols of friend-foe communication by not engaging with them. In this emerging gap I can do something that is more suitable for me for my communication.

Questions from which I do not reserve to have an answer already give signal to the receiver of my question that I welcome to be surprised, even irritated.
Even through online communication you'd probably sniff it immediately when I only ask you something but expect an answer to my likes.