Social Engineering is a very powerful thing, almost a weapon in some hands.
Today's topic to discuss:
People understand the body language often on an intuitive level. Poses are an excellent source of information. They reflect our mood and our level of self-confidence. We stand and walk a certain way, when we are sure, and quite differently when we are nervous. Most people at first sight can tell whether you are nervous or confident, relaxed or aggressive. You need just a little bit of practice...
This is the first and important advice. Avoid pockets like fire. We put our hands in them when we are uncomfortable when we are unsure of ourselves. And while you keep your hands in your pockets, people will perceive you.
We instinctively hide our hands when we are nervous; and if you keep them in sight, it serves as an indicator of confidence and shows others that you have nothing to hide. And because of this position, they begin to stoop, and this is not good. As an alternative, put your hands on your belt, this broadcasts more confidence.
When you do not find a place for yourself, it is immediately clear that you do not own yourself. A man who can not sit still, an agitated man looks tense and to a certain degree unsure. Hands - your worst enemies, you need to try to keep them in place. Take the trouble to control your gesticulations. Also, you do not need to tap with your foot when standing or sitting - it's annoying and creates the impression that you urgently need to go to the toilet.
The most unobvious way to show self-confidence, however it works, and how! When you go out alone, sometimes it seems natural to lower your eyes and look under your feet, but this is a deceptive impression. If you follow this desire, then others will receive a signal that you do not want to start communication. This behavior can even become a habit that will play against you. Raise your chin and look in front of you, even when no one is around.
A good posture is almost the most important part of your image. Keeping your back straight can do good, as it is not easy, especially if you have been stooping all your life, but it can be overcome. Good posture is a sign of a confident person. Concentrate on your straightened shoulders. Do not overdo it, do not push your chest out. This simple action works wonders. Try in front of the mirror - you will be surprised how great the difference will be.
A confident person will never sneak or walk like a penguin, so pay attention to your gait. If you want to create the impression of confidence, go wide steps. They will make the gait purposeful and inspire you with calmness, which distinguishes a self-assured person.
About this, probably, everything is self-explanatory. Few things are worse than a weak, uninteresting handshake during your acquaintance. It seems like you're shaving boiled fish. Not very pleasant. Do not be boiled fish! Instead, firmly and surely take someone else's hand. If you greet your acquaintance, you can even shake his hand with both hands (with your free hand, take the interlocutor just above the elbow) - show remarkable enthusiasm. The main thing - do not get involved. A handshake is not a contest, you do not need to tear off a person's hand, everything is good in everything.
Imagine: You enter a room full of beautiful women or respected colleagues. And now notice how you look: shaggy, with bad skin, greasy hair - like? When a person knows what looks bad, it's hard for him to be self-confident. This is also a kind of gesture. A big gesture, all over. Everything should work for you: hair, face and even a smell - for you, not against you! Do not be afraid to experiment, by the way.
Confident people smile, because they have nothing to worry about. Try to conduct an experiment: smile a passerby in the street or an accidental person in the office. Chances are great that he will smile back. Well, if you will produce such an effect at all?
