Not again, another night of unsatisfied sex. This thought runs through the mind of folake as she closes her eyes and opens her mind on how it all started.
Bolade……., folake screamed as she saw her husband Bolade lying on the bed, stark naked with his eyes closed, masturbating to an audio sex. Bolade open his eyes and was filled with shame. Am sorry was all Bolade can utter.
Folake was in tears, is this why am no longer appealing to you sexually? Ask Folake. Have tried to stop, but I couldn’t. How long has this been going on? Ask Folake who is still trying to recover from her shocking discovery. Since I was sixteen, in the bid to avoid fornication I indulge in masturbation as a way to satisfy my sexual urge. I didn’t know how bad it is considering that, I started it as a harmless act. Not until we got married I realize that the harmless act I started years ago is now an addictive problem. Since I could no longer get sexual satisfaction from you nor be able to satisfy you either. The only way I could do that is to masturbate when you are not at home or imagine an audio sex in my head. Those were the few times have been able to satisfy you.
Folake could do nothing but walk to her husband, held him close as they both cried their hearts out.
It’s been twelve months since this incident; Bolade and Folake are still suffering from the aftermath of Bolade’s addictive masturbation act.
What Is Masturbation
Masturbation is the sexual stimulation of one’s own genitals for sexual pleasure or arousal, usually to the point of orgasm.
It has gotten to a point in our society where people see masturbation as a healthy and normal act. People no longer frown at it. Rather they give reasons to encourage this addictive act that is breaking marriages, relationships and embarrassment when the individual is caught.
It may interest you to know that both men and women are involved in it. It’s so surprising when people give you reasons why they masturbate aside sexual pleasure. I once read an article that says masturbation helps to release menstrual cramp; others said it’s a way to keep oneself away from fornication. Trust me if you surf through the internet you will see countless reasons people give to encourage masturbation.
Looking at it from the spiritual aspect, God created the woman as a companion for the man because He said it’s not good for the man to be alone I will make him a help meet. This means from the time of creation God created us (humans) to share. That’s why when a member of one’s family is successful; others will share in the success and joy of such an individual. Sex is not any different, it’s meant to be shared and enjoyed by two persons who loves and respect themselves and are legally married. is all about giving, taking and sharing. But masturbation in its entirety goes against that.
Masturbation is a selfish act, and God hates selfish activities. Aside being selfish, the psychological and emotional trauma associated with it, it’s another thing to be considered. Imagine you waking up one morning and realizing you can’t leave the house without touching your genitals to arouse yourself to orgasm. Even when it is so clear that you’re going to be late for work or classes. But that’s not all, how about going around every day and storing sexual images of indecently dressed individuals to help with your masturbating activities. That’s not the lifestyle God or any well human wants for you.
For those going with the notion that they are avoiding fornication you deceived yourself. Because you can’t masturbate without imagining naked bodies that alone is fornication. with your imaginations alone you are fornicating with someone in your heart. Christ says whosoever looked at a woman lustfully commits fornication with her in his heart and that goes for the ladies as well. And those out there that wants to defend themselves by saying they don’t imagine anyone in their head just pornography videos, then am sorry to break it to you that you are as guilty as well. The bible make us to understand that not just those who do such things but those who applaud them. So you are not just guilty of just fornicating by masturbating, you go as far as applauding actors and actresses who featured in such ungodly videos.
It might come as a surprise to you when I say this. Some persons are of the opinion that masturbation is not a selfish act since there is an image of someone in your head whenever you masturbate. But I always tell such people not to forget that sex is all about giving, taking and sharing. But in the case of masturbation, the individual’s image you had stuck in your head is not aware; he or she is not sharing from the experience. Personally I call this high level of deception, especially when that individual is someone you see every day; it’s such a shameful act.
My friends out there, who wants to attain sexual purity, who wants to reduce their menstrual cramps and any other possible reasons you give to encourage yourself to keep masturbating. Masturbation is not the way out, that’s the lies told by the society to destroy us.
What’s the solution to this addictive act? I know that’s the question that will be on our minds. But am sorry I do not have a long list of solutions to this act, just one and that’s” YOU”. You are the solution to this addictive act and every other addictive habit out there. The lasting solution to this time killing, shameful act begins with you. All you have to do is to make that firm decision about stopping. You can try other ways such as telling your friends about it so they can help, or you can download apps that can stop sexual contents from entering your phones. But my dear friends out there trust me if you have not make that firm decision to stop you will always look for a way to masturbate.
Don’t expect it to be easy. Masturbation is just like every other addictive acts, you can stop it for a week and go back to it for one month. But don’t give up, keep trying, God knows how much effort you are putting in to stopping this shameful acts, and he is happy that you have made the firm decision to stop just keep trying and keep praying you will come out of this strong and happy.
Wishing everyone who is struggling with masturbation or any other addictive habits out there success on their journey to freedom from masturbation.
Written by
Engraven
