Love is a beautiful thing, it's one of the things that will hurt you and make you swear never to do it again yet make you happy whenever you are able to find another.
I have so many experiences when it comes to love, sometimes I feel so bad over it but sometimes I feel lucky to have such privilege.
Many people say that "Love is not all about money," but I have a different view on that. Actually money is supposed to be love but things have changed. Without a touch of money in love, love will not stand.
Reflecting on my past relationships brought so many memories, some triggered regrets, some smiles, and some pains.
One of the outstanding lessons I learned from my past relationships is "Don't love when you don't have money."
I am not saying you need to accumulate all the money in the world first, no, what I mean is if you don't have enough money to attend to some of your partner's needs, especially as a man don't try love.
No matter how much a lady loves you, if you continually remain unsupportive financially a point will reach where she will change towards you.
I noticed that in relationships one of the things that brings respect is not love, it's one's ability to take responsibility. Many people say "Women love money, women ask for money a lot," no doubt some women are like that but some are not.
Some only need a little assistance from you and if you are able to meet up with it, they will make you their king. It makes them feel safe and have that confidence that they can lean on you.
If you are not sure you are that financially capable don't ask any lady out for a relationship. If not you will end up hurting yourself, it's just a matter of time.
I had this relationship, the lady loved me but each time she asked for some financial assistance I don't use to come through for her. Honestly, then life was really difficult for me. She kept on enduring until it got to the point where she began to disrespect me and say bad things to me. We had to break up along the line.
I had many relationships that ended because of the same thing. Now, was the lady bad? No. A man who can't provide even if it's little for his girl might not also be able to take responsibility if something should happen. It's not her fault that you are in your current situation.
Love isn't about money but when a little money comes in, it makes the equation balanced. However, support is supposed to be from both sides and it doesn't have to be something that is held as priority. If demands become too much it kills relationships and if there is no support at all it also kills relationships.
After getting this lesson, I am more careful about love. The last relationship I had was one of a kind even though it ended but I enjoyed the relationship, I applied that very principle and things moved perfectly.
Even though no relationship is assured to last forever, each of them comes with lessons and if we are careful enough to learn from our mistakes then certainly things will improve in those areas.
