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We have different mindsets, different beliefs, and different perspectives about life. One thing we must understand about life is that all the principles and the laws governing us were set by us. They are valid because society accepts them. The day we say these things should no longer be like this or like that, the order will change.
What is right, or wrong, what is proper or improper all came from our perspectives and beliefs. This is why in the world today, what one person sees as a taboo, to another person is legal. In that regard, everyone is right and everyone is wrong.
So, I am going to be talking from my belief and perspective. When it comes to relationships, age is nothing but a number provided that you know what you are about to go into and you are ready to be committed to it.
Down here in Nigeria, we believe that a man should always be older than the lady he wants to settle with. The reason many people tie to this is, that if the woman is older than him, she might not respect him.
Also, the woman might get old before him which may eventually make him cheat or make her get out of his mind. As soon as she starts giving birth, her shape will be gone and she will not be as charming as she used to be.
Others consider menopause and a few other things. All these reasons are tangible but as logical as they are, they don't appeal to me.
First of all, one thing we must check when it comes to marriage and relationships is love. Marriage is not all about having kids and being beautiful. Those things are important too but they are not basic.
We need to consider a few things like what are we marrying for? Is this the right partner? Can he/she support my dreams? If all fades away, will I still love this person? Do I really want to be with this person or am I just doing it because he/she is young or because the person is wealthy?
All the above being answered then you will know that age is nothing, a lot of us carry the ideology of age as a barrier to marriage from what we hear around.
Whether you like it or not your partner will still grow old. I have seen men who married ladies who were younger than they are but the ladies ended up looking like their mothers. Don't tell me you don't want her to be older than you. In the end, it will definitely happen.
Go for who you love and who you are sure you can be with regardless of age. But ensure you are ready for what comes along with it. I am saying this so that we can be wise as well.
In as much as age doesn't matter to me don't go for someone who is too old and expect the person to perform miracles for certain things to come into existence.
For instance, marrying a lady who has reached
menopause and expecting her to bear children, that's witchcraft. At Least if she's older than you, she should be within the age of fertility so that your home won't be shaking along the line.
When you do it the right way you will have your peace. Anyone saying your spouse will disrespect you because he or she is older than you was misled. Yes, it happens but check the foundation of the marriage before you conclude. If your spouse is God-fearing and truly loves you, they will always accord that due respect to you.
Moreover, you won't just marry without courtship. What the person displays while you are in the relationship level will definitely resurface during marriage. If you ignore them in a relationship, be ready to do likewise in marriage. Some of those things don't just happen.
Apart from marriage and courtships, even in friendship, age doesn't mean anything. Most of my friends are even older than me but we relate well and act like mates.
We are all humans, the age thing is just a privilege to be in the world before the other person, it's not something to cling to. It shouldn't make us lose the right people in life.
